Comments on: 6 Steps to Deflate Self-Defeating Fears

By: Mr D

Mr D — Sun, 11 Sep 2011 11:49:14 +0000

I found this article after googling “how to beat self defeating thoughts”.
After reading it i felt less alone and It probably allowed me to condense the things i already knew after having read so many self help / mindfullness books into a short actionable list. Thank you.

I m a web entrepreneur and despite my efforts it seems my business is stagnating.
I typically read the bios and about us of my competitors and partners with very anxious thought patterns.
Thinking they all have higher education and connections.
They know the right things to do and the right people to call.
Whereas i m breaking my back for no encouraging results they all seem to progress effortlessly and arrogantly.
I have not been much to school, learned quite all i know by myself and I hate these people for the
Talking to partners i cannot help feeling like a peasant in front of a lord. I feel like i don’t fit in, don’t have the body langage nor the words nor the self assurance they boast.

Yet i know every one of the previous assertions are false, i m still telling all this to myself unconsciouly. Well more and more consciously apparently. Isn’t that a good sign ?
I m starting to get through this !

By: Mav

Mav — Fri, 25 Feb 2011 05:03:56 +0000

I needed to read this you captured exactly what plagues me and so many others I know. This article is exactly the difference in Success and Failure in life. You choose the outcome when its all said and done, only thing you don’t control is when you’re gonna leave!

By: prestito inpdap

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By: Ressie Hennig

Ressie Hennig — Wed, 05 Jan 2011 21:10:31 +0000

we should just be greatful for our family

By: Lana

Lana — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 08:20:43 +0000

Wow your to stuff is powerful. In the middle of reading it, I realized that I was unconsciensely comparing your skills at understanding human minds and fears with mine. I was thinking of how much of a better person you were at knowing and understanding people and how well you can help people realize and grow. It made me stop and go wow. I do it all the time. I had to stop thinking that people are better than me, and think of how we are all equal and all have different skills and abilities that make us great and that even if someone is better, or appears so, in a certain area, we shouldn’t automatically think that we fail compared to them, that we all have our areas in which we excel and we have nothing to fear expect or own self judgement. Thank you.

By: Frank Brown

Frank Brown — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 16:12:09 +0000

I think the advice within step 3 has helped me the most. Specifically regarding changing my physiology. I have started running after work everyday, and I can say my thought process has been more positive. I think its because it lets your clear your mind for a while and focus on the exercise at hand.

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Frank B.
Car accident lawyer

By: Gina

Gina — Wed, 18 Feb 2009 19:26:22 +0000

WONDERFUL! THANKS A LOT!

By: Wakas Mir

Wakas Mir — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 07:31:33 +0000

Very nice tina… this post really was helpful and informative :)

By: Reflexology london

Reflexology london — Sun, 03 Aug 2008 17:57:37 +0000

I enjoyed this post.
Listening to yourself is very important but so difficult…
Even if you’re making efforts then it fades away.

Gotta keep trying.

By: jd

jd — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 09:58:47 +0000

Tina – good thoughts and distinctions.

Originally I would say what, then how … but now I might actually say
1. Why
2. How
3. What

Where the why is your real driver and the how is your process/approach for results — and your experience of life. It’s an inside out approach.

Both lenses are powerful, but starting with your why’s behind the goals can help make sure you don’t end up with your ladder up against the wrong wall.

If you live according to your Why and achieve using your how, the what’s are more like interesting projects along the way — but everyday you’re living your purpose and your way.