I still read comments.

This is one issue and topic that is close to my heart, because it is one that I actively work on and has seen dramatic results in my income level (and opportunities) as my beliefs about money shifts.

I want to write a blog post or book about this some day, because it is so important.

Make it your highest goal for the next year to focus on “Abundance” and learn as much as you can about the topic. I briefly talked about this in this blog post: http://thinksimplenow.com/motivation/goals/

Change starts with awareness. By you actively seeking and is now aware of this means you are on track to extraordinary change. Trust me.

There are some books (i’m not finding right now). But off the top of my head, I really loved this product:
http://www.learningstrategies.com/AbundanceForLife/Home.asp
It’s a little pricy, but I feel that it’s worth it if my life is changed as a result of it.

Lemme know how you do. I’d love to hear more about your journey and progress. :P

Tina

I know it has been a long time since you wrote this post, but I just found it today (I hope you’re still reading these comments)… I have been learning about limiting beliefs a lot lately (I came across the free videos you mentioned a few days ago) because I can’t seem to get past a certain income level (once I start doing well some “unexpected expense” comes forward and I’m back to where I started).

I didn’t realize it before, because I had always thought of my family as well off, but I can relate to the points you made about not asking for nicer things when my siblings did (and feeling apprehensive about buying them for myself more recently). After hearing your story, it sounds like I probably need to focus on changing my beliefs about what I deserve too.

I think the other contributing factor to my income level is that my parents hit a rough patch (medical issues, etc) and they have been having very bad financial difficulties (sometimes the “unexpected expense” I mentioned comes from wanting to help them however I can)… How would you recommend adjusting my beliefs about achieving more than my family (for me, it sounds bad to say “I am awesome and deserve to be wealthy” when I don’t really feel that my parents deserve to be having the issues they are)?

Now I’m happy to say that the memories aren’t bothering me nearly as much as they were. Thank you so much for all your help and I hope to continue along with this positive growth and learn from your experience as well.

Have been reading up encouragement books on Strength of Women and a book by Douglas Pagels. I am seeking you as my inspiring model in mid of my emotional crisis. Hoping I can pull through it and be a strong and happy person.

You asked about book recommendations, at the moment, I recommend “You can heal your life” by louise hay. I link to my favorite edition of the book along the right sidebar.

I apologize for writing to you again. I just thought that I should be more specific myself, by telling you a little bit about my background. I am 21 years old, at a good college in my country. Problems are that although a passionate learner when at high school, I seem to have lost my passion for learning and have failed courses, retaken ones even. I do not have a girlfriend and have barely made any attempts. It’s a quite common story for nowadays, I’m afraid. I do not think there is something wrong on me on a physical or other level. I do think however, that being a “nerd” in high school( and before that) and depriving myself from active socializing, has resulted in my nowadays situation. Family has “contributed” for this too, I guess. Observe the vicious cycle: a nerd, realized a change is needed, but finding it too hard as I’ve led a ‘nerdish” life for quite a while, I can’t go back to my “study mode” (maybe because I know I’ve dedicated a lot to it in the past and want to compensate) and I can’t become a “party” person as well. I’m feeling like I’m stuck in the middle of going nowhere. Negative ideas formed in my past have sometimes led me think that it would be better for me to die or struggle severly, only to make up for all the things I’ve missed on. No other way is an option. Struggling… I already am… with all that’s in my head and is working against me. They are quite universal, such as(see here everybody, I’m sure you’ll identify some things for yourself too):

!) I am limiting myself from doing things, because due to a period of being stuck (call it apathy, depression, etc.), I am no longer on the same level of ability as others. I will only make a fool of myself and walk away ashamed of a performance that a much younger person could haver easily outdone, or at least handled things in a better way. This applies to almost ALL types of social interactions. This is what is preventing me from going to parties (i feel uncomfortable, subjects are brought that i know nothing about), having a girlfriend(even if we do get close, she’ll see that there is something wrong with me (classes failed, no girls before her, low self – esteem, fails in this and that) and leave me;Illogical, but it is what it is)., doing sports, hanging out with friends.

I am stuck and depressed and I bet that although not intentionally, right now I might as well be speaking from behalf of 1/3 of people of my age around the world. Well, enough of me whining :), sorry if I became too emotional. I just want someone to picture things, assess my bad state of being and give me a piece of useful advice. Thanks again.

First of all, allow me to congratulate you on your “right on the point” article. I know that the ideas expressed are not new and have been discussed. From what I see, the whole “Law of Attraction” team, Eckhart Tole, etc., are on the same track. Many before them like Napoleon Hill and Andrew Carnegie have already been there. However, the people who have actually succeeded doing what you’re describing are few. Recently, I’ve also become interested due to a growing need to change. I KNOW and can identify MANY negative non – realistic believes about myself that are destroying my future. Question: What happens when we cannot track back the very first (or perhaps those after as well, d!?) reason for creating a negative belief, because it was traumatic enough for us to burry it deep down, to suppress it? Do we really need to go back to identify that specific moment or is it unneccessary? What are the techniques for doing that, if it is? Also, can you reccomend a program or book that is SPECIFICALLY about ELIMINATING OLD, HARMFUL BELIEVES AND SUBSTITUTING THEM FOR BENEFICIAL ONES, WHILE LIMITING OR ELIMINATING FURTHER CREATION OF NEGATIVE IDEAS ABOUT OURSELVES? I think that there is nothing more for me to ask from life at this stage. I’d like to thank you in advance, wishing you a successful journey through like, whereever it may take you.