Comments on: Dealing with Difficult People

By: izzy

izzy — Wed, 08 Feb 2012 19:10:11 +0000

Shahid, go to the dean of your school. That behavior is unacceptable, the dean needs to know what’s going on. Bring the paper to review, and inform them of what’s going on.

By: Ben

Ben — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:34:49 +0000

I’ve been picked on and made fun of all my life. I have to deal with negative and mean people wherever I go. If you really want to get treated like crap, be a bagger in a grocery store. I know because I’ve been there. I know I have to improve my people skills and the ability to cope. I have neither. This is a great website to get started on improving.

By: Shahid Hassan

Shahid Hassan — Sun, 29 Jan 2012 18:40:04 +0000

I am a new visitor of this site. I searched for it because i was face a negative person from last 3 weeks. Its very strange to say that he is my teacher. I don’t know why he was doing so. He always enter the class call my roll number and was giving me various punishments without giving me any reason. All my friend and the whole class observed that he has got some problem with me. I thought may be i am not good enough in my studies. the exams were on head. I thought to prove my self by scoring high marks in his subject. I didn’t wasted a single min during the preparation gape. I gave the paper and was very happy on attempting every question in detail.
One day he entered the class started distributing the paper he called my roll number and said u r fail in this paper. i was shocked and i questioned myself what the hell is going on with me. Papers of the whole class was distributed he called me and gave me my paper. I was shocked that he hasn’t checked my paper. I looked toward him with lots of question in my eyes. He showed me a diagram. That was a Cartoon of sole trader. He told me u are fail in this paper because of this drawing which you have made. I came back to my sit. The paper was of 5 question and the cartoonic diagram was only in the answer of one question. The counted my hole paper 0/100 it was very strange to me and to the whole class. My friend asked for my paper. I gave it to them all were shocked. One of my friend called my name i turned back he returned me my paper.
suddenly the teacher come to me in anger. He reached me and hit me very hardly on my head. I lost control i controlled myself very hardly. I couldn’t so any thing because there was much chance to lose my career.

i came home searched this site got a lot of points. Lets see whats gonna happen tomorrow.

By: S

Fri, 20 Jan 2012 19:11:36 +0000

This is all sensible advice because you can’t control anyones actions but your own. But what about stopping the other persons behavior? We fight because it lets the other person know we will not tolerate their behavior. If we don’t stand up for ourselves and merely being passive doesn’t that invite more torment? I walk a fine line here when it means keeping my cool and letting the other person have it.

It’s difficult keeping your cool when being confronted and pushed. I’m dealing with a person now who comes off all passive aggressive, confronts, than doesn’t want to deal with the aftermath of their negativity and playing the victim. I’ve dealt with bullies before and although I’m an adult it feels like I’m in high school. I’ve been trying to get zen and find an answer but I don’t know what else to do. Getting pissed off wont help. Trying to inner peace isn’t coming easy. I just feel like I’m between a rock and a hard place.

By: izzy

izzy — Tue, 17 Jan 2012 04:53:37 +0000

this article has been incredibly helpful to me. in dealing with difficult people i have learned many things about myself, and i found that through my own personal experience i had already accomplished many of these things. seriously, great article. and for the record i really don’t care if i’m right. now i’m going to go pour honey on someone and pay them unnecessary compliments, even despite the waves of negativity that have been washing over me from that person recently. it is so hard to be kind and forgiving in the face of hostility.

By: zlewy granitowe

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By: Troubled HighSchool Student

Troubled HighSchool Student — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 03:41:03 +0000

They don’t even know me either.
They think how I am at home is how I’m at everywhere
They basically think I’m retarded and they know best.

By: Troubled HighSchool Student

Troubled HighSchool Student — Fri, 06 Jan 2012 03:38:49 +0000

My father gets mad over everything I do, including what I don’t do..
For example, he expects me to do good in school but repeatedly tells me i’m dumb, crazy, useless, etc.. He is simply hard to not get mad at…
I keep my anger held back (or at least try to), but he is just too much.
I can’t avoid meeting him since he lives in this house but what can I do? My father has huge anger issues as he becomes enraged at a tiny thing as looking at other websites while doing my homework. He is immature and is like a little kid having a tantrum.. He is like a highschool bully (which i have yet to meet ironically irl) who is my father and is sitting on his butt watching tv all day or out gambling unemployed telling ME i’m useless. I remind you I’m a high school student.
My parents are racist, think of the world as easy in their views (they haven’t had any “proper” schooling and only had about a middleschools worth of school in vietnam)

~~When I try doing my homework they tell me to do it faster. When i’m trying to think of how to do my homework, they tell me to think faster and stop being dumb.~~

My mom is not much different except she has less of the anger my father has and a bit more maturity. I really try to not let my anger show but sometimes they are just pushing it to the edge. I have thought of suicide sometimes until i reminded myself thats not the way to go. “Lots of rage”^ Question below

How would I survive this place if I can’t avoid the negativity in my life if my parents seem to be the embodiment of negativity?

By: Johnaden

Johnaden — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:12:29 +0000

Great article! I’ve encountered difficult people in my previous jobs. My strategies? I listened to what they were saying and responded as calm as possible. Very effective, indeed. The conversation ended smoothly…

By: Privy trifles

Privy trifles — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 07:28:09 +0000

Superb article!!

Just read these beautiful lines somewhere, thought of sharing the same

“By letting go things it doesn’t mean you are forgiven. It means I choose to stay unaffected by whatever you do to me. ”