Comments on: Dealing with Difficult People http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/ Creativity, Clarity & Happiness Tue, 15 May 2012 16:11:15 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: jo crehan http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-9/#comment-148597 jo crehan Tue, 15 May 2012 13:52:13 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-148597 after reading many of the comments, i just wanted to respond to hippie hater. I do understand where your opinion comes from because I myself find it hard being spiritual to find a balanced point of asserting myself. I would say that the article does have many valid points, my only draw back is that I do believe that the point about asking yourself " what will I gain if I respond" would answer that. If you feel that asserting or sticking up for yourself will leave you feeling more as ease than do it. The walking away factor only really relates to me in the case of the internet "leeches" that are purposely throwing out insanity for a reaction. after reading many of the comments, i just wanted to respond to hippie hater. I do understand where your opinion comes from because I myself find it hard being spiritual to find a balanced point of asserting myself. I would say that the article does have many valid points, my only draw back is that I do believe that the point about asking yourself ” what will I gain if I respond” would answer that. If you feel that asserting or sticking up for yourself will leave you feeling more as ease than do it. The walking away factor only really relates to me in the case of the internet “leeches” that are purposely throwing out insanity for a reaction.

]]> By: Alicia St Rose http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-9/#comment-148141 Alicia St Rose Thu, 10 May 2012 08:24:21 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-148141 Thank you, I needed this very much. I feel confident that I can tolerate and maintain my patience with difficult person I will be meeting with soon. Ah, thank you, again. Thank you,
I needed this very much. I feel confident that I can tolerate and maintain my patience with difficult person I will be meeting with soon.

Ah, thank you,
again.

]]> By: shahi http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-9/#comment-148043 shahi Wed, 09 May 2012 12:25:51 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-148043 it's really very nice article it’s really very nice article

]]> By: angels http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-9/#comment-147886 angels Tue, 08 May 2012 03:11:57 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-147886 WOW! What an insightful article? There are a few coworkers who I can learn to deal with better. And hopefully help. Even more than that....I am a hugely difficult person to deal with. When I have problems I can tend to bring a lot of negative energy. I can see how difficult it has been for other people to deal with me. Ive used this website the past 2 weeks to help me from going negative at work and it has helped me a lot. When I want to say something negative or reactive, I don't respond, then force myself to say the bare minimum of what needs to be said to do my job. Then I write down my negative thoughts and throw them away. I was a lot more pleasant at work today. WOW! What an insightful article? There are a few coworkers who I can learn to deal with better. And hopefully help.

Even more than that….I am a hugely difficult person to deal with. When I have problems I can tend to bring a lot of negative energy. I can see how difficult it has been for other people to deal with me.

Ive used this website the past 2 weeks to help me from going negative at work and it has helped me a lot. When I want to say something negative or reactive, I don’t respond, then force myself to say the bare minimum of what needs to be said to do my job. Then I write down my negative thoughts and throw them away. I was a lot more pleasant at work today.

]]> By: Abigail http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-146483 Abigail Sun, 22 Apr 2012 16:56:00 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-146483 I wasn't very far away from the truth! I always thought that ignoring difficult people was better than trying to defend myself. Thank you Tina for your blog. You are so smart!! I wasn’t very far away from the truth! I always thought that ignoring difficult people was better than trying to defend myself. Thank you Tina for your blog. You are so smart!!

]]> By: g http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-146310 g Thu, 19 Apr 2012 15:51:05 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-146310 This is quite a compelling article on how to be the master of your life. Everything in the article is about being passive except for the part about eliminating contact with "negative" people. What a complicated dilema to propose that one should, in their own inherent goodness, actively exalt and support those who "attempt" to tear oneself down while simultaneously ignoring and eliminating contact with that very same "negative" person. This article does touch on a few truthful concepts but I am anguished for those that believe this article and attempt to follow this methodology for they will be entering into a state of dissassociation which is very dangerous for themselves. Instead, identify and cultivate personal boundaries and seek out authentic freindships. This is quite a compelling article on how to be the master of your life. Everything in the article is about being passive except for the part about eliminating contact with “negative” people. What a complicated dilema to propose that one should, in their own inherent goodness, actively exalt and support those who “attempt” to tear oneself down while simultaneously ignoring and eliminating contact with that very same “negative” person. This article does touch on a few truthful concepts but I am anguished for those that believe this article and attempt to follow this methodology for they will be entering into a state of dissassociation which is very dangerous for themselves. Instead, identify and cultivate personal boundaries and seek out authentic freindships.

]]> By: Lee Ann Darnell http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-146254 Lee Ann Darnell Tue, 17 Apr 2012 20:24:15 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-146254 How do you eliminate the negative people when they are you ailing elderly parents that have to live with you? How do you eliminate the negative people when they are you ailing elderly parents that have to live with you?

]]> By: Jocasta Phillipa HOLMAN http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-146248 Jocasta Phillipa HOLMAN Tue, 17 Apr 2012 16:31:14 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-146248 I think most people have met difficult people in their lives at sometime, i now distance myself from people like that who stress me out, i don't wish to sound negitive i try to be optimistic most of the time if i can. My dilemma is my sister-in-law who whenever we meet brings into the conversation about babies and kids. I get rather fed up with this and i have dropped a few hints to her i don't like it but she still does it. Just because she thinks it's the bee's knee's it doesn't mean we all do. So now i have moved away from seeing her to much and only see her when it things like parties or gatherings. It is a shame that the relationship has got to this stage but i found myself getting stressed out in her company to much i think she should but more sensitive to other people's feelings and anyway she doesn't know why people have no children perhaps they couldn't have any or they don't want any. I think most people have met difficult people in their lives at sometime, i now distance myself from people like that who stress me out, i don’t wish to sound negitive i try to be optimistic most of the time if i can. My dilemma is my sister-in-law who whenever we meet brings into the conversation about babies and kids. I get rather fed up with this and i have dropped a few hints to her i don’t like it but she still does it. Just because she thinks it’s the bee’s knee’s it doesn’t mean we all do. So now i have moved away from seeing her to much and only see her when it things like parties or gatherings. It is a shame that the relationship has got to this stage but i found myself getting stressed out in her company to much i think she should but more sensitive to other people’s feelings and anyway she doesn’t know why people have no children perhaps they couldn’t have any or they don’t want any.

]]> By: Marianne http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-145687 Marianne Fri, 30 Mar 2012 13:08:46 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-145687 Great thoughts here. thanks. I do think animals are intelligent ,just not able to change their minds/reactions. Also the best tip you suggested I think is to write it or express it somehow and then throw it out or let it go. We cant just stuff our feelings, every feeling is to be honored for what it is. Then we can move on. Peace. Great thoughts here. thanks. I do think animals are intelligent ,just not able to change their minds/reactions. Also the best tip you suggested I think is to write it or express it somehow and then throw it out or let it go. We cant just stuff our feelings, every feeling is to be honored for what it is. Then we can move on. Peace.

]]> By: SMS http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/comment-page-8/#comment-145557 SMS Sun, 25 Mar 2012 22:43:54 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/happiness/dealing-with-difficult-people/#comment-145557 As I have went through a negative day myself with a person who I knew has issues at times but try to let it go, she jumped me over something our kids said, and will I sorta said. But it was nothing it was so small and should have not been brought up, but now it has put me in such a downer. I would love to just let it go, and again its nothing big but for her to put me in a spot like this makes me feel so bad. She tends to be such a person to react to things and then you can't help to not react to it. I want to be a person who lets this stuff go, and came to this post thinking maybe it would help and it has. So thank for that. I hope it all blows over. As I have went through a negative day myself with a person who I knew has issues at times but try to let it go, she jumped me over something our kids said, and will I sorta said. But it was nothing it was so small and should have not been brought up, but now it has put me in such a downer. I would love to just let it go, and again its nothing big but for her to put me in a spot like this makes me feel so bad. She tends to be such a person to react to things and then you can’t help to not react to it. I want to be a person who lets this stuff go, and came to this post thinking maybe it would help and it has. So thank for that. I hope it all blows over.

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