How to Be Naked like a Baby

53 Comments

Photo by Matthew Bennion

… And Just as Happy

Why is it that once we become adults, we become so serious all the time (generally speaking). We get so caught up in the hectic race of everyday life that we forget that we are here to experience joy, to experience Life. We forget to smile and enjoy the beauty of the present moment. I notice that I fall into the many demands of my life story. Recently, I have gotten so busy that a week can pass without realizing. I don’t get the chance to slow down once to reflect and to be present. I seem to fall into the pattern of constantly living in the future, running after that next goal or achieving that next task on my never-ending list of Todos. Let’s take this moment to slow down, just for a few minutes.

Small children and family pets (dogs, cats) can serve as great ‘Zen’ teachers. Have you observed them before? Try it. It is so beautiful to watch the innocence of a small child, or a dog. They are so present in the moment, stress-free, open to their feelings and are a bundle of joy. I tell people that my dog Tommy is “made of love” because from observing him, he really is! A fluff of positive energy, which serves as a constant reminder to be positive in any situation and to not take things so seriously. Live life, enjoy the moment.

I also believe that child-like innocence and creativity have a direct connection. I work with lots of artists and creative people, and I have found that child-like innocence are very common among all of them. The purity, the openness, and the awareness of the present moment are clearly shown through interacting with each of them.

We can guide ourselves back to the inner child in us. You ready? Let’s first start with some common traits and characteristics of our cute little ‘Zen masters’:

Trusting - Children aren’t cynical and they don’t expect disappointment. They have an innate trust of the world and other people.
Delight - Children are full of wonder and delight. They are amazed at and enjoy the little things. Seeing an airplane in the sky is an incredible thing from a child’s eye.
Present in the moment - There is no past or future for a child. They are fully engaged in the present moment.
Forgiveness - It’s possible to hurt a child’s feelings, but they won’t stay mad at you for very long. In fact, they may not get angry at all. Children have a refreshing ability to let go of the past.
Uninhibited - Children have not yet learned to care what other people think of them, so they are free to do and say the things they truly want to.
Strong emotion - Have you ever seen a child throw a tantrum? The truly amazing thing about children is that they feel and express emotions ‘fully’ - happiness, anger, fear - and then they move on. They feel and express the emotions fully and completely, but they bounce back quickly. Nothing is suppressed or held back.Children experience things to the fullest, but somewhere along the way toward adulthood, something changes. Through social conditioning, we start to act like other adults, how society expects us to act. We begin to care about what others think. We aren’t always present in the moment. We hold grudges. We stress about our daily problems and tasks, and we don’t get excited about seeing an airplane in the sky anymore.

Each of us will always have that child-like innocence somewhere within us, the part of us who is present, happy, positive, playful, joyous and compassionate. The following are six simple practices to help us free and get in touch with the inner child within us:

1. Being with the moment. Practice being present in the moment, by giving your full attention to each task you perform. I’ve come to realize that it really doesn’t matter what I’m doing, as long as I bring present in the act, I will find joy in it. Regardless of what you are doing, do it fully! Be aware of little details, relax your mind, and bring awareness into everything you are doing.

2. Explore. Practice seeing things from new perspectives. Imagine you are seeing and doing everything for the first time - everything will seem so much more amazing when you view life in that light. What do you notice in this moment doing this task that you haven’t noticed before? Look for small details to appreciate.

3. Laugh & Smile. Nothing can bring out the child in you faster than a good belly laugh. Rent a comedy, tell a joke, act silly with a friend, do a ‘happy dance’. Find something that’ll make you laugh.

4. Play. What did you enjoy doing as a child? Did you jump rope? Ride your bike? Climb a tree? Watch a trail of ants? What’s stopping you from enjoying those simple things now? Give your childhood pastimes a try. You might really enjoy them and brings back fond memories. If not, do something you consider playful as an adult. Pull a prank on a close friend, build a spaceship with Lego, draw with colored crayons, dance like no one’s watching, go to an amusement park, turn up the music real loud and start singing, slide around the house in your underwear. :)

5. Run. If there’s one thing that children are good at, it’s running around (or skipping). They seem to have a never-ending supply of energy. Find a park and try for yourself. (And I’m not talking about exercising. I’m talking about running around for no purpose at all except to have fun.) It’s energizing, right? Combine running with laughing and hilarity will ensue! I periodically do this with my dog. We do this in the apartment too. It’s fun!

6. Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Children have the right idea with this. Not only will practicing forgiveness benefit those around you, it will greatly increase your own peace and inner harmony. Feel your feelings, but then let them go. Let yourself forgive others.

So, you’re probably still wondering about the title, huh? Well, I don’t know what you’re thinking, but I don’t mean butt naked … I’m referring to naked metaphorically, for dropping your inhibitions. :)

What do you think? What make you feel in touch with the inner child in you? Share your thoughts with us in the comments. We’d love to hear from you.

If you enjoyed this article, please share it on StumbleUpon, vote for it on Digg or bookmark it on del.icio.us. I appreciate your support. :)

Other Articles You May Like:

External Resources on Freeing Your Inner Child:

Life Hack: How to Tap into the Fountain of Youth
Dumb Little Man: How to Teach Children and Learn from Them Too
Daniel Roach: Is Your Inner Child Proud of You?
Zen Habits: 75 Simple Pleasures to Brighten Your Day

Leave a comment?

Like this article? ThinkSimpleNow delivers weekly articles on creativity, clarity and happiness. Join the Community by subscribing! (What's this?).

Subscribe by email:

StumbledUpon Save to del.icio.us Digg it! Comments (53)

This entry was posted on Wed, Nov 21, 2007 at 5:02 am and is filed under happiness. Email this page.

Browse in Timeline:
« 9 Ways to Overcome Jealousy
» How to Build Intimacy in Any Relationship

53 Responses (40 Comments, 13 Trackbacks ):

Comments

David Finch

Nov 21 07, 6:30 am PST

1
Being with/in the moment can be the most challenging. Especially individuals who are leaders and visionaries. Being two steps ahead of everyone else is always applauded and admired. However, many “special moments” are missed when your always looking to far in advance.

Thanks for reminding me where I need to be! Great post!
John

Nov 21 07, 7:02 am PST

2
Thanks for a great post. One technique that I use to allow myself to step back like that is to remember the scale of things. The world isn’t going to grind to a halt if I stop cranking. Someone has already said it better than me:

1: Don’t sweat the small stuff.
2: It’s all small stuff
Andrea Hess|Empowered Soul

Nov 21 07, 8:44 am PST

3
I love the title of this article! My two-year-old daughter teaches me a lot about joy every night. After her bath, she likes to run gleefully through the house, butt-naked, daring us to catch her. It’s the cutest thing …

Blessings,
Andrea
Derrick

Nov 21 07, 8:49 am PST

4
My motto is to realise that if you are thinking negatively, the world still turns and you will still get old, so start thinking positively!
Tina Su

Nov 21 07, 9:01 am PST

5
@David Finch: It is most challenging, this is why we must be aware as much as we can to do so. I too fall into the situation of living in the future a bit too much. It helps for the work we are doing, but we miss the opportunity to enjoy (In-Joy) the moment. Thanks for the comment!

@John: Hmm.. I love this little technique. I’m gonna write it on a yellow sticky and tape it by my monitor. :) It’s a good reminder. :) Thank you for sharing.

@Andrea: hahaha.. that is such a cute image. A little baby running around butt-naked after her bath. :) Thank you for making me smile. It’s a good reminder that deep down inside, we have the innocence of that baby.

@Derrick: That is a great motto to live by and a great saying. Thank you! It’s so true and funny when we think about. But when we are in the moment of heat, it’s hard to think rationally. :)
Amber Cox

Nov 21 07, 10:07 am PST

6
YES! This was such a great post - and perfect timing in my life to get out of this adultish grind and back to the beauty of joy in the everyday little things.

p.s. I love your blog!
ZHereford

Nov 21 07, 12:01 pm PST

7
If we ever want to recapture the wonder and excitement in life, all we have to do is look at our children!

Love the article, Tina.
Joseph Bernard

Nov 21 07, 12:46 pm PST

8
Thanks Tina for reminding us about the innocence of the child in all of us. Is it play time yet?

You keep up what you are doing because it does have meaning for all you touch.

Peace and Gratitude,

Joseph
www.ExploreLifeBlog.com
raj

Nov 21 07, 1:22 pm PST

9
Wow, childhood, those were the best days … the brief nights and the long stories if you know what I mean …
Tina Su

Nov 21 07, 3:52 pm PST

10
@Amber Cox: Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate the encouraging words. :) It’s a good reminder for myself as well. Keep smiling!

@ZHereford: Indeed.. or look at our pets if we don’t have children. :)

@Joseph Bernard: Thank you for the note and kind words. :)
It is always play time if we decide it is. I like to be reminded that we are in complete control of our lives and how we live it. Not controlling the external, but rather, controlling our thoughts and minds.

@Raj: hehe.. yeah, I know what you mean. Thanks for the comment.
Raymond

Nov 21 07, 4:55 pm PST

11
Ohw, I haven’t slow down for quite a while. Perhaps I shall make today as a slow-down-day. :)

I will.

Thanks for the reminder, Tina. :)
Christopher Jones

Nov 21 07, 5:46 pm PST

12
Reminds me of the movie “The Peaceful Warrior” how his mentor taught him to be present in the moment. And that the destination (i.e. wherever he was going) wasn’t that important, but that you found happiness in the journey, each and every moment of life. Great post.

~Chris Jones
Personal Development for the Book Smart

Nov 21 07, 7:06 pm PST

13
I always do silly and dramatic stuff like the “happy dance” to make people laugh. Yes, laughter is the best medicine really. It’s keeping my dad alive now.

I have a recent post on life which is related to this entry. It also advocates slowing down and enjoying life. Have a look when you are free =)

http://richgrad.com/life-and-music-by-alan-watts/
John Rocheleau

Nov 21 07, 7:33 pm PST

14
I often think about the difference between how a child — before he or she knows any language — and an adult, sees the world and learns. The major difference is that the infant cannot think in words. Their awareness is pristine.

Try this for fun:
Go for a walk by yourself, and make a commitment that you won’t think in words at all. Of course you will have worded thoughts entering your mind, but just let them go, then get back to how an infant sees the world. Just be aware of your surroundings; the sights, sounds, and smells. Take it all in without labeling any of it.

Now it may sound impossible but it develops quickly with practice. You will be amazed at how this simple exercise will change how you feel. Such a simple thing really, but it can change your life.

Cheers,
John
http://www.JohnRocheleau.com
Martin Saenz

Nov 21 07, 8:23 pm PST

15
Agree on the child having a greater ability to express creativity, but need the adult in us to do what it takes to see the dream through.

Martin
toolkitforsuccess
Prabhakaran.G

Nov 21 07, 10:25 pm PST

16
Most of ppl spend time in movies, games, etc for entertainment. This reminds me kids are 24/7 Entertainer, Fresh, Energytic & All in all.
Anyway thanks for reminding. Very interesting!!!
Raymond
Nov 21 07, 10:27 pm PST

17
Its lovely and will try and follow it through. My kids teach me all this lessons everyday I am with them and I seem not learn may be its
but “my socially conditioned” self will say other will think I have gone crazy and throw me into the psych ward.
All the same I will try and very hard at that
Mert Erkal

Nov 21 07, 10:46 pm PST

18
One more great post from Tina which reminds me those happy days in childhood. Lower your expectations, and become more happy. This is my simple formula. What does a child expect ? Simply nothing. Everything is quite interesting for a child…
Tina Su

Nov 21 07, 11:45 pm PST

19
@Raymond: haha.. thanks for the laugh. Slow-down-day sounds great!

@Chris Jones: I loved “The Peaceful Warrior”.. and the book “Ways of the Peaceful Warrior” .. have you read it before? It’s one of the books that really shifted my way of viewing the world. You are right, it really doesn’t matter what we are doing, what’s most important is enjoying the journey. If we are present in anything we are doing now, we will experience joy and bliss. I love it! :)

@John Rocheleau: Love that idea! It’s like meditation while you are walking. To become the observer without labeling everything, and to fully enjoy every moment. Thanks for sharing. :) I’ll try that next time.

@Martin Saenz: Absolutely, indeed, the adult in us needs to do what it takes to see the dream through. But being in such a pure and relaxed state, the adult can have greater access to creative energy and vision for his/her dream. :)

@Prabhakaran.G: Thank you for the comment!

@Raymond: Keep trying, don’t give up. Throw away the thoughts of what others are thinking. You don’t need them. You are here to live life for you! Not for any body else. What other people think of us are only their opinions and will only affect us if we allow it. The joys we feel inside cannot be taken away from us.
James T
Nov 22 07, 4:09 am PST

20
Thanks for the refreshing viewpoint. The thought in my mind while reading the first paragraph was “Social programming”.
John Gwynne Prosser II
Nov 22 07, 4:38 am PST

21
A Wonderful reminder of what we know and often forget!
All there really is, is Now! Our imagination takes us to our future which is great if we focus on the positive! Our fears and our doubts are our traitors, Shakespeare. Purposefully choosing a positive emotional state is the most intelligent thing we humans (spirits in a body) can do, we feel good now and attract more with that very energy, which becomes our self fullfilling prophecy, which is how we make the world a better place! All you need is Love, be that Font in your life!
Smile and laugh and dance and sing, feel good!
Thank you for an inspiring article! Happy Thanksgiving!
Shashank
Nov 22 07, 5:41 am PST

22
Really Nice article… We do all these things in our daily life… And ya I try to retain all my good old memories.. It makes me feel good and feel like a child..

Those stupid things makes everyone laugh and my moto of life is to to be happy ever I try it everytime.. Laugh without any reason and make others laugh.. :)

Thnx for these beautiful and golden lines..

let be Peace and Love every were..

Shankie ;0)
Billco

Nov 22 07, 6:15 am PST

23
Children are expected to be happy, energetic and care-free, yet an adult behaving in such ways is often considered rude and immature. It’s a shame modern society is such a a patchwork of double-standards. We have become so “politically correct” but it merely covers up the boxed-up frustration we’re not allowed to release. Like you said, kids throw a tantrum, get it out of their system and then it’s gone for good!

I practice this sort of venting (in moderation) and it is a liberating experience. Some people may take offence or call it disrespectful, but I think those folks need to take a look in the mirror. I’d rather have someone express their anger toward me and let us work it out, than hide it under their fake passive-aggressive smile. After all, how can someone be honest, if they’re not honest about their feelings ?

Great post! :)
Well...
Nov 22 07, 6:37 am PST

24
1) Children are that way because they are being taken care of. They don’t NEED to worry about where the food comes from or where they’re going to live tomorrow; mom and dad take care of that for them.

2) Society wouldn’t progress if people weren’t concerned for the future; the future of their children/grandchildren, the future of an individual’s rights, and more to-the-point, their dreams of what society’s future SHOULD BE LIKE.

3) Adults fret not for some arbitrary reasoning; it’s because they know what’s out there (because they’ve been alive for approx. 21+ years and they’ve experienced/observed things around them). There’s: a) hypocrisy, b) oppressive/offensive behavior, c) closed-mindedness, so on and so forth. These things cannot be ignored as they present themselves every day.

These attributes are not born of anger - they are attributes that live in each and every one of us; small children don’t exhibit them very frequently because there’s no need to; they get all the attention/care/love they want and there’s no reason to be cynical.

Now don’t get me wrong; I’m not a pessimist (though my previous words would SEEM to indicate so)…I’ve had great parents who although sometimes show undesirable characteristics, I know it’s because of all the shit they’ve had to deal with over the course of their lifetime - and they’ve done a great job in teaching me that we don’t need to lower ourselves to the common denominator. So all I’m really saying is that it isn’t right to emulate a child - the goal is to recognize the problems around you and to deal with each of those problems directly. If you just ‘forget’ about a bad thing that has happened, it will most likely happen again. and again. and again.

I remember what it was like to be carefree all the time and I also remember WHY I am no longer. However that isn’t to say I try to find the worst in every situation - I’m perfectly contempt the way I am.
Tan Kah Yap
Nov 22 07, 8:00 am PST

25
I find that the post is very similar to what is in Wayne Dyer’s book Your Erroneous Zones - if you like this, then go read the book. Cheers!
Don
Nov 22 07, 6:35 pm PST

26
Daydream. No, not sex or vacation. Knights coming to save the day, other worlds, finding treasure on an island, finding out your really a princess.

Everyone I talk to my age (50’s) has quit daydreaming. We need those times, both to explore and relax.
Chris Sharp
Nov 23 07, 8:50 am PST

27
Wow! Tina, thank you again. Your gifts, your posts grow in power and simplicity each time.
I have noticed how very young children naturally share everything with you. They bring anything they can carry and bring it to you, no strings attached. They love giving things away, as though they no nothing or next to nothing, about lack. Children just get it. We adults become like onions of beliefs (acting like filters) that become so concerned with past and future, the presence and awareness that children are and do is nearly all but obscured by the indoctrinations we layer around us. But children have magical abilities - they can immediately bring out our own amazement and wonder in a heartbeat, which shows that we can just as easily, unless we don’t practice.
I am surprised how something so simple becomes the greatest thing in the world to a child. Today I watched some children just explode with laughter, just from deliberately pretending to be frightened by pretending to jump off a ledge. They of course didn’t really jump off, but they knew a real ledge was there, so they had fun with a fear. They played.
God! Imagine if something that once seemed so serious or painful or heavy, was completely felt, and magically turned into a belly laughing session about how silly it really was? It was all a game. I wonder if folks out there have experienced this too?
Arigatou Tina-san!

Gratefully,
Chris
kwamsta

Nov 23 07, 4:15 pm PST

28
Very refreshing to see that there are still a few free minds out there who have not been sucked into the system of capitalism and the seriousness of the rat race. You have but one life and the key is to live it in a way which fills you and those around you with joy and happiness and that could be in a sharing a kiss or a look a smile a moment between strangers. I have had the opportunity to enjoy many of these moments and I wish the world could experience them. Thanks for the great post.

Kwamsta
P.s if you have a moment watch zeitgeist the movie, it has a lot of interesting viewpoints especially at the end. One
Tina Su

Nov 24 07, 12:50 am PST

29
@James T: Thank you for confirming of my point of view. :) I thought it was just me.. being ‘crazy’ again.

@John Gwynne: Nicely put! Indeed, what we focus on expands, so we mind as well focus on something positive and worthwhile of our time. And it is so true, we attract like energy back to us… we truly receive what we send out. I’ve played and experimented with this concept many times, and it’s never failed on me, 100% of the time. This site was a result of such an ‘experiment’. :)

Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving. Mine was fantastic! Thank you for asking. :)

@Shashank: Thank you for making me smile with your comment. Keep laughing Shashank, and continue to spread joy to others by making them tickle with laughter.

@Billco: Great comment Bill! You are right, it really does seem that we adults tend to cover up the boxed-up frustration we’re not allowed to release. Rather than expressing anger, I’m a fan of open communication before the anger takes place, or expressing your anger feelings rationally after you’ve calmed down, so that the person on the receiving end doesn’t feel that they need to defend themselves from an angry person. :) Thanks for the comment! Very nicely expressed.

@Tan Kah Yap: I love Wayne Dyer and the way he expresses himself. Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll check it out. :)

@Don: Indeed, daydreaming is a great way to relax and explore our imagination.
Tina Su

Nov 24 07, 1:04 am PST

30
@Chris Sharp

Arigatou Gozaimasu Chris-san! :)
You know, I’ve always loved reading your comments. I’ve found it to be inspiring. It’s obvious that you are speaking from a place of presence.

Thank you for the compliment. I’m working very hard to keep the content quality high and consistantly asking the question, “How can I provide value to readers? How can I express this idea to a simple form such that people will get it and possible apply it.” Do keep feedbacks coming when you have them. I am still learning, and there are things I can do to improve the site and its content.

I loved your analogy with the onions of beliefs, it’s very visual and a simple example that we can all ’see’. I really do love how children will give without strings attached.. I forget that. Hmm… what pleasant reminders we have here. Thank you for sharing the vision and story. :)
Tina Su

Nov 24 07, 1:10 am PST

31
@kwamsta: Hi, thanks for stopping by my little place here on the web and thanks for commenting. I am a free spirit, but I have been guilty of being sucked into the system of capitalism and the rat race at one point in my life. Not anymore tho, it’s been so liberating to live the life that I want. I’m learning that the way our life turns out is truly a choice. The joy we experience is truly a choice. We may not be able to control our external circumstances, but we do have the power to control our internal circumstances… which perceives and determines our experience of our external situations.

Thank you for the moving recommendation. I’ll check it out.
By the way, have you seen “Waking Life”. It’s a fantastic thought provoking film that you may enjoy. :)
ardi

Nov 25 07, 4:57 am PST

32
Thank you so much for this article, it’s make me smile and make me realize that… i think i need to do one of the things that u mention above, after what i’ve been through in this life and make me depressed for a while, mostly because of my daily task in the office, and my lovelife ;P

And also, i want to put this article in my website, just for my private collection. And maybe share it to my friends. But i wont forget to put the link where this article came from ;)

Thank you
Shirley

Nov 27 07, 7:15 am PST

33
Great article Tina. Wow, 40 responses, looks like you really hit a button here. I have to agree that the playful innocence of childhood is good for us all.

I connected most strongly with your point about children and temper tantrums. As an adult I am surprised by how a child can have a meltdown, then an hour later be totally fine, with no leftover grudges or anger.

I think I certainly could learn from this. Even though I may not want to let lose in public, sometimes our anger is justified and we should acknowledge it in private. Maybe if we did this more often we would be more balanced. It’s certainly something to think about. . .
Tina Su

Nov 27 07, 9:23 pm PST

34
@ardi: Keep smiling, because it looks good and feels great. I wish you success in any area of your life that you are working on. Regardless of what’s happening external in our life story, we are still the same inside, and we can choose our perception to the external stories. Choose the ones that make you feel good. :) Thanks for the sweet message. Feel free to link to this article if you like.

@Shirley: I hear ya. What’s most amazing about children is how fast they get over things. Adults tend to hold grudges against people or situations. But as a result, the adults are the ones being hurt mentally and emotionally.
Where We Relax

Dec 08 07, 11:54 am PST

35
Hi, thank you for your participation in the carnival of healing at Where we Relax here is a copy of this weeks carnival
http://www.we-relax.com/random-thoughts/blog-reviews/carnival-of-healing-submissions-115.htm
Daniel Edlen

Feb 01 08, 2:44 pm PST

36
The Tao of Pooh did it for me. Man, that was a long time ago now. It keeps working though. Just be.

Peace.
jd

Feb 08 08, 2:34 am PST

37
Tina - I once heard Ellen say we should let our inner child out by playing tag at work. I haven’t tried it yet, but it just might work.
Catherine
Sep 13 08, 11:18 am PDT

38
thanks, for this article. this helped me alot, with a dance i’m doing where i’m a small child with my dolly! now, i can create an endless supply of child-like movements!
UNIVISIONS

Nov 25 08, 9:32 pm PST

39
(: Good Stuff!! TY!
Christopher

Dec 28 08, 6:14 pm PST

40
I just started working at a childcare center for a local gym. Everything you have said here is apparent in these kids. It’s a testament to how good life can be if you adjust your lens a bit.

Your Thoughts?

Add A Comment

We'd love to hear them! Please share:

Trackbacks (13)

Ofbeat News top DIGG news » How to Be Naked like a Baby And Just as Happy - Nov 21 07
The Source Computing Blog » How to Be Naked like a Baby… And Just as Happy - Nov 21 07
kwoff.com - Nov 22 07
links for 2007-11-22 - Daily Eclecticism: Assorted Sumptuous Links Daily by Debajit Adhikary - Nov 22 07
links for 2007-11-22 « InfornographY - Nov 22 07
How to Be Naked like a Baby… And Just as Happy « One World News - Nov 23 07
Felicidad at fREn WebLog - Nov 27 07
Speeding Links for Search For Blogging Readers | searchforblogging.com - Nov 30 07
Web Authors Who Inspire Me XIV : Be Inspired Every Day - Nov 30 07
How to cope with your pain. « Brighter Days for you and me! - Nov 30 07
Welcome to Health Carnival #115 - Found in Blog Reviews and Carnivals - Dec 08 07
How to Be Naked like a Baby | Pratomo Ardianto's Personal Stuff - Jan 07 08
Mush Ngoceh » Blog Archive » How to be Naked Like A Baby - Sep 07 08

Return to Top

Return to Top