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7 Hacks to Remember Any Name

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Our name is one of those hard wired words in our subconscious (like “Free” and “Sex”), which has the intrinsic trigger to get our attention. You are more likely to react and respond to the sound of your name than say the word “apple”.

The ability to remember people’s names is an incredibly useful skill, in business and social interactions. Do you remember how impressed or surprised you were the last time someone remembered your name? I still get impressed, and I tend to remember these people in an especially warm and friendly light.

I have a distinct, short and easy to remember name (“Tina Su”). I often fall victim to the embarrassment of not remembering names of people who approach me with “Hi Tina, how are you?” My mind would go into panic, thinking “Oh crap! What’s her name again?”

I have developed the following techniques to help myself remember names. I’ve used each one extensively and they have proven to be effective in my experience. I want to share these with you, and hope that you will find them as valuable as I have.

Similar to keeping your inbox uncluttered, the trick is to take immediate (mental) action upon a new introduction.

1. Trust Yourself

Many of us ‘believe’ that we are “horrible at names” and we are very ‘proud’ of this fact by telling other people about it. By relying on this story we’ve created, we instantly forget people’s names the moment we hear it, without even trying, because we are “horrible at names”. I have been guilty of this. So, STOP telling people that you are “Bad at names”. You are not bad at names, you just have not implemented a system that worked for you yet. Tell yourself, “I am fantastic at remembering names! And I’m gonna practicing start now.”

2. Seeing Faces

If you know another person with the same name, try the following:

  1. See that person’s face in your imagination.
  2. Now, see the person’s face bounce up-and-down (perhaps smiling at you).
  3. Now, see the new person’s face, bouncing up-and-down beside the first face.
  4. Repeat steps A to C several times

3. Using Sound Tricks

If you do not know another person with this same, try the following mnemonics using sound:

  1. Repeat their names several times in your head, while noting the following:
    1. Exaggerate the sounds. Prolong the syllables. Ie. “Teeeeeeeee-Naaaaa!” The funnier, the funkier and disturbing, the better for remembering.
    2. Chunking‘ – Break the name into several distinguishable parts/words.
  2. Associate parts of name with words you’re already familiar with and can easily pronounce. Ie. “Ramesh” = Mesh, Mash
  3. Create a story – Especially great for foreign, long or unusual names. I sometimes find it helpful to create a little story containing familiar words from step b to serve as memorable cues. Make the story highly visual, especially great if the story sounds silly and makes you laugh.
    Example, “Bengodi” -> Ben Afflect is going to become a deejay.”

4. Hear the Sounds Repeated

Look into their eyes while being introduced and repeat their name several times out aloud.
I like asking the following questions after being introduced. The reason I ask is to give me additional time and opportunity to practice their names on the spot:

  • “Did I pronounce it correctly?”
  • “How do you pronounce that?”
  • “Could you repeat it?”

I would repeat it several times after they answer the question, and check with them that I’ve got the correct pronunciation. Again, this technique gives me an excuse to practice their names, also ensures that I’m pronouncing it right. People typically do not mind to help you learn their names.

 

5. See the Spelling Visually

Practice seeing each letter clearly in your mind. Sound out each letter as you see them. Repeat the process of seeing and hearing each letter in sequence.
Example. “Tyler” – “Tee, Y, L, E, R, Tyler!”

Two tips
for this technique:

  1. Clarify SpellingAsk “How do you spell that?” This gives extra time and chance to practice the technique. Make sure to repeat the letters back to the person (and see the letters as you say it). Don’t worry about sounding or looking silly. If you are genuine about learning someone’s name, they will actually appreciate it.
  2. “Dancing Letters” – As you pass through each letter, see it move a little. It could be shaking, bouncing, wobbling in its place. This will help your mind to remain the memory.

6. Writing it Down

Always useful to have some scrap paper and pen with you. Better yet, use your notebook if you carry one. When the person is not looking or when you are in the bathroom, quickly jot down the names or sounds of names.

  • (Optionally) write a one-liner description beside the name
  • At conferences, I will have a page in my notebook dedicated to names. After meeting someone new, I would write it down in this page along with a quick distinct reminder about that person.

Examples:

i. “John, the real estate guy from Portland.”
ii. “Zoe, the myspace programmer.”

I like dumping names on paper or in a record (Item 6 below). Using this technique, I don’t need to carry it around in my mind and be constantly reminding myself of it.

7. Keeping Records

Keep a file on your computer, or even better yet, use google docs (virtual WORD documents). Call it “The Name Record” or TNR.

I use this to record names of people who I may come in contact with again. I use this to record names of people from my building (as I meet them), and for anyone I meet at any gathering I attend. When writing down a name, it is important to associate the name with a memorable fact or story.

Example entries:

  • “Unit 406 – Manik, Indian guy, very nice, 30 years old, works at Boeing.”
  • “Derek – friend of Josh. music director, they went to same college, big eyes, sarcastic.”

Try using these techniques one at a time. Practice, and when you feel comfortable, try another. Believe in yourself; the more you want to remember a name, the easier it will come.

Do you have any techniques that you use to remember names? What has worked for you in the past? Please share in the comments!

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Tina Su is a mom, a wife, a lover of Apple products and a CHO (Chief Happiness Officer) for our motivational community: Think Simple Now. She is obsessed with encouraging and empowering people to lead conscious and happy lives. Subscribe to new inspiring stories each week. You can also subscribe to Tina on Facebook.

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95 thoughts on 7 Hacks to Remember Any Name

  1. Thanks Ti-, uh, thanks girl!

  2. Howard

    This was very helpful I loved the part about the story! Hahaha!

  3. ashu

    hello Tina Su…
    i’m equally impressed by your techniques as well as your readiness to reply to the comments posted in here. your involvement with readers is awesome. :)

  4. Bo Shen

    Hi,Tina
    I think you give us some good ways to rememeber somebody’s name. I will try to use these ways to do the same thing. Thank you. A good article.

  5. L

    Great tips! I will especially do the first one…

    Another thing is when you see them next instead of just saying “hi” say “hi Tina”

    I was in the same chemistry class as a woman named Annette, and I still remember her name because she said “you can’t go fishing without a net” as a way to remember her name.

  6. Ian H

    Hi. I use a variation of no. 2 (seeing faces). I associate the new person with someone I know who has the same first name. It may be someone I know, or a celebrity.

    So if I just met (say) a Hillary Thompson, I would associate her with Hillary Clinton. I would picture them together.

    Next time I see Hillary Thompson, I would see Hillary Clinton in my mind with her, and know her first name is Hillary.

    Similarly, I can remember Wayne J’s name because when I see him I think of “Bruce Wayne” (Batman).

    Ususally the first name that pops into your head (Hillary Clinton, Bruce Wayne) is the best one to use.

    For me, it’s fun and it works for remembering names of people I’ve just met.

  7. Thank you for writing this. I’m keen to try the bouncing faces idea! Sounds funny, and perhaps I’ll even tell the person, “I’m imagining your face bouncing up and down right now”. Business networking events is a key aspect of many people’s lives, including my own, and remembering names is a key part of communicating effectively.

  8. rohit

    Thanks , good dose Tina.
    another way suggested to me by a consultant was like associating the person with a place or thing.

    thanks again

  9. Now, your name I could remember if we met. You would say hi I’m Tina Su and I’d say Hi Tina Su how are you? If we can make a rhyme we can remember it.
    Thanks for the tip about negative confessions. Just the other day, I said I’m bad at remembering names. And you are so absolutely right that is just plain self defeating and down right ridiculous to limit our self like that. I would say, what was I thinking? But, apparently I actually wasn’t thinking at all, just talking negative words against myself.
    So, thanks again for the lesson in word watching.

  10. Tina,
    Years after first publishing, I see how this blog still makes sense. Thank you for incorporating all the different learning styles, it gives us plenty of options to choose from. I think I will start picturing the people who’s names I want to remember hopping up and down as I picture others as well!

  11. mia

    I used to jot down new friends’ names in my notebook. Now, I seldom do that because I can just go through my facebook whenever I want to be sure of my friends’ name, technology is helpful, right? However, I still have problem to remember friends’ names whenever I meet them on the road unexpectedly. It’s funny sometimes when you know the faces, but you don’t remember their names. Good article btw, thank you.

  12. I totally see the situation… “What’s your name again? TUPTUPTUP I’ll facebook it wait a minute!”

    Anyway thanks for the tips, I’ll start practicing starting tomorrow ;-)

    Otherwise for those of you who don’t want to panic when you don’t remember a name:
    - “What’s your name again?”
    - “Fred”
    - “Yeah of cours I know I meant your family name sorry…”

    hehe

  13. Thanks a lot for your help.
    I will follow your teaching and wanted to become like you.

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