Comments on: How to End a Relationship http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/ Creativity, Clarity & Happiness Mon, 21 May 2012 20:41:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: John http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-147796 John Mon, 07 May 2012 11:57:13 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-147796 I stumbled upon your article doing a bing search. I'm do glad I did as I am in the beginning stages of mutual breakup.we live with each other and for various reasons can't make each other happy even though we love each other. Your advice/story gives me hope even though the pain is sharp and the sadness intense,i evil take things one day at a time I stumbled upon your article doing a bing search. I’m do glad I did as I am in the beginning stages of mutual breakup.we live with each other and for various reasons can’t make each other happy even though we love each other. Your advice/story gives me hope even though the pain is sharp and the sadness intense,i evil take things one day at a time

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]]> By: joe http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-146205 joe Mon, 16 Apr 2012 09:11:22 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-146205 Hi everybody, Reading Tina’s eloquent post and the thread was really informative for me, because I am not acquainted with many people who have experienced any breakups in their lives. Almost all of my friends had only one relationship in their life, which still continues, hopefully for the rest of their life. Although I went through a divorce, it wasn’t as bad as the way people here describe. I didn’t feel emotionally connected to my ex-wife, and the divorce was a relatively easy process. This may sound strange to you, but I live in the heart of new work, in Brooklyn. I am an orthodox, Hasidic Jew, and pre marital sex is strictly forbidden in our community. We marry at a young age, after a number of dates with our bride to be, and if we feel that we are suitable for one another and we have a common language etc., we get engaged. The first kiss is on the night of the wedding. I was always mad at this system, I thought it’s an unforgivable crime that we don’t have a choice to marry our romantically loved ones, I thought it’s unfair that our choices are so narrowed down. In fact, I myself have gotten out of my first marriage, due to the fact that we hadn’t really known each other before we got engaged, and eventually it turned out to be a disaster. But now, after reading all this lamenting about messy breakups, I’m giving it a second thought. I am no longer sure what way is the right one. I would suggest something in between. Taking more in consideration and making sure that we are in love is absolutely necessary, but to fall in love (chemically, that is) too quickly, and taking things too easily, the consequences are almost inevitable. It’s about time we slow down the rapid speed of contemporary modernity. Btw, I am now married to the love of my life; you can read the story about my two marriages here http://www.unpious.com/2011/09/and-we-are/ Hi everybody,
Reading Tina’s eloquent post and the thread was really informative for me, because I am not acquainted with many people who have experienced any breakups in their lives. Almost all of my friends had only one relationship in their life, which still continues, hopefully for the rest of their life. Although I went through a divorce, it wasn’t as bad as the way people here describe. I didn’t feel emotionally connected to my ex-wife, and the divorce was a relatively easy process.
This may sound strange to you, but I live in the heart of new work, in Brooklyn. I am an orthodox, Hasidic Jew, and pre marital sex is strictly forbidden in our community. We marry at a young age, after a number of dates with our bride to be, and if we feel that we are suitable for one another and we have a common language etc., we get engaged. The first kiss is on the night of the wedding.
I was always mad at this system, I thought it’s an unforgivable crime that we don’t have a choice to marry our romantically loved ones, I thought it’s unfair that our choices are so narrowed down. In fact, I myself have gotten out of my first marriage, due to the fact that we hadn’t really known each other before we got engaged, and eventually it turned out to be a disaster.
But now, after reading all this lamenting about messy breakups, I’m giving it a second thought. I am no longer sure what way is the right one. I would suggest something in between. Taking more in consideration and making sure that we are in love is absolutely necessary, but to fall in love (chemically, that is) too quickly, and taking things too easily, the consequences are almost inevitable. It’s about time we slow down the rapid speed of contemporary modernity.
Btw, I am now married to the love of my life; you can read the story about my two marriages here
http://www.unpious.com/2011/09/and-we-are/

]]> By: Lisa http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-145613 Lisa Tue, 27 Mar 2012 17:27:12 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-145613 My romantic partner ended our 18 month relationship a week ago via email. Although I have wanted to I have not responded as yet as I am very hurt and I feel as though I need time for my heart to catch up with my head. He commented in his email that he is sure he is going to hear an earful but at the end he also said if I have feelings for him please let him go. I do care for him deeply so want to honor this request but I need the chance to say my peace and my own goodbye. I am not comfortable doing this via email. Any suggestions. My romantic partner ended our 18 month relationship a week ago via email. Although I have wanted to I have not responded as yet as I am very hurt and I feel as though I need time for my heart to catch up with my head. He commented in his email that he is sure he is going to hear an earful but at the end he also said if I have feelings for him please let him go.
I do care for him deeply so want to honor this request but I need the chance to say my peace and my own goodbye. I am not comfortable doing this via email.
Any suggestions.

]]> By: xceia http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-144810 xceia Thu, 08 Mar 2012 23:14:45 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-144810 i have one question...will you tolerate if your love one remains friends with his 5years realationship ex girlfriend.??? i have one question…will you tolerate if your love one remains friends with his 5years realationship ex girlfriend.???

]]> By: Love http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-143369 Love Sun, 19 Feb 2012 09:55:09 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-143369 Hi Tina. Thanks those are some lovely words... and the energy you put into those words makes me realise that one really has to go beyond themselves to reach reality = Love. Revenge, Hatred, Negativity seem sometimes the best option of breaking up but the truth is that you will be hurting yourself more if you handle it in this way. I have been through a few relationships. The last one just ending, trying to make it a happy note. He is a married man, but separated because we fell in love. Due to his public status he could not divorce her immediately and they have a young daughter too. I was getting very frustrated, being the second wife, so to speak. Off late i had been on a very sour tour, sending him msgs n saying things where i was emphasising he is a cheater bla bla bla... I was actually fighting myself, because deep down inside somewhere i knew i had to move on... but for me usually it's so hard to let go off someone that i allow the other person to hurt me n as a result break up. Now this time i decided that i was not going to let it get so far again and decided its time to let go... i ended it a bit negatively but after just having a few days by myself i felt more at peace with my decision n now i sent him a msg thanking him for the wonderful moments and contributing to me becoming the stronger person i am today... n on this note i too want to thank you for sharing your experience. God bless :) Hi Tina. Thanks those are some lovely words… and the energy you put into those words makes me realise that one really has to go beyond themselves to reach reality = Love.

Revenge, Hatred, Negativity seem sometimes the best option of breaking up but the truth is that you will be hurting yourself more if you handle it in this way.
I have been through a few relationships. The last one just ending, trying to make it a happy note. He is a married man, but separated because we fell in love. Due to his public status he could not divorce her immediately and they have a young daughter too. I was getting very frustrated, being the second wife, so to speak. Off late i had been on a very sour tour, sending him msgs n saying things where i was emphasising he is a cheater bla bla bla…
I was actually fighting myself, because deep down inside somewhere i knew i had to move on… but for me usually it’s so hard to let go off someone that i allow the other person to hurt me n as a result break up. Now this time i decided that i was not going to let it get so far again and decided its time to let go… i ended it a bit negatively but after just having a few days by myself i felt more at peace with my decision n now i sent him a msg thanking him for the wonderful moments and contributing to me becoming the stronger person i am today… n on this note i too want to thank you for sharing your experience. God bless :)

]]> By: Kim http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-141343 Kim Wed, 25 Jan 2012 23:41:50 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-141343 I came across this post while I was looking for something that would put in words what I am feeling and thinking. A significant relationship is ending and I have been struggling with guilt and the feeling that I have failed in this connection with another person, that I care about. And then I read this post - and it struck me like lightning. I didn't fail. I know that people come into your life for all sorts of reasons - perhaps they are there for a season, or they are there for a reason....or they are there for a lifetime. Why they enter and why they leave isn't really known all the time, not right away anyway....but it's trusting that it was supposed to happen that matters. You were supposed to learn something - and feeling guilty about the end minimizes what that relationship was supposed to bring into your life, and into theirs. So I thank you for this 'aha' moment. I took bits of this blog and put it in my gratitude journal to think and reflect on - and everytime I read it, I'll be grateful I wandered across this post :) I came across this post while I was looking for something that would put in words what I am feeling and thinking. A significant relationship is ending and I have been struggling with guilt and the feeling that I have failed in this connection with another person, that I care about.

And then I read this post – and it struck me like lightning. I didn’t fail. I know that people come into your life for all sorts of reasons – perhaps they are there for a season, or they are there for a reason….or they are there for a lifetime. Why they enter and why they leave isn’t really known all the time, not right away anyway….but it’s trusting that it was supposed to happen that matters. You were supposed to learn something – and feeling guilty about the end minimizes what that relationship was supposed to bring into your life, and into theirs.

So I thank you for this ‘aha’ moment. I took bits of this blog and put it in my gratitude journal to think and reflect on – and everytime I read it, I’ll be grateful I wandered across this post :)

]]> By: will http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-140877 will Tue, 17 Jan 2012 13:50:31 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-140877 This seems like terrible advise for men but perhaps all this works for women I won;t be agonizing as much as suggested. thanks anyway. This seems like terrible advise for men but perhaps all this works for women I won;t be agonizing as much as suggested.

thanks anyway.

]]> By: Kiroro http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-139293 Kiroro Wed, 04 Jan 2012 17:42:53 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-139293 Hi Tina, Thanks for the article. I have walked out of a relationship ones when i discovered my girl friend was sleeping around. My mistake then was that i did not confront her about it, I just left. I'm not regreting leaving her but i should have handle the situation matuerly then. Hi Tina,
Thanks for the article. I have walked out of a relationship ones when i discovered my girl friend was sleeping around. My mistake then was that i did not confront her about it, I just left. I’m not regreting leaving her but i should have handle the situation matuerly then.

]]> By: Witty http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/comment-page-5/#comment-136781 Witty Sun, 25 Dec 2011 15:07:55 +0000 http://thinksimplenow.com/relationships/how-to-end-a-relationship/#comment-136781 I was recently broke up with and I wish we had read this! We were only for about a month but she decided to tell me via email.... Didn't end end well. wasn't my finest hour. :) Thanks for this article. Break ups are tough even for short lived romances. Its the rejection, i guess. I was recently broke up with and I wish we had read this! We were only for about a month but she decided to tell me via email…. Didn’t end end well. wasn’t my finest hour. :) Thanks for this article. Break ups are tough even for short lived romances. Its the rejection, i guess.

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