Comments on: How to Find True Love

By: D

Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:39:58 +0000

This all makes sense IF you have guys to choose from. Everyone seems to think I have an amazing social life when in fact there is ZERO going on. I don’t even know of any single men. All couples. None of my friends know of any single guys, either, except for very obvious weirdos — guys with cats who use man purses and have B.O. and erectile dysfunction. Everyone is hooked up. Online, it’s worse. Guys my age looking for 20 year olds. How low do I have to lower my standards? 25 years older? Fat? Accountants? I just can’t.

By: Júlia

Júlia — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:52:03 +0000

What is?

By: leeya

leeya — Thu, 02 Feb 2012 13:33:18 +0000

wow! impressing

By: Júlia

Júlia — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 01:16:43 +0000

Hi! I read most of the article, but I have been thinking how the world have been crazy. I refer to people’s behaviour in general, not just regarding romantic relationships. Near my city three building fell apart because the institution responsible on checking the quality of the material weren’t really doing their job. And in work, in the streets, everywhere we go we see more and more people wanting to manipulate others, or just do bad things in order to pursue what they want. Mostly, prestige and money. Well, I am outraged with what I have been seing.
I have love in my life, I have my sister, my family. But also, I grew up with a messed up father. Suming up, I overcame his abuses of violence. I no longer hate him, I’m really free. I am not completely free, actually, cause the fear of getting close to man, stil goes on. He cheats on my mother with no worry of disguising, she did everything for him. He does not talk to his family, she ofered him confort all these years, she insisted on him to go after his dreams… even after ALL he had done. Now, I see how unworthy he is. This just, the fact that I have had much contact with, living in the same house and all, it is hard for me to believe a guy can actually not beat a woman, not cheat, and truly repesct her. I know, there are some reasonable guys out there, I have friends. But when it comes to relationships, all they seek is sex, like you are disposable. That’s why I have 22 years old, have never had a boyfriend and feel safer that way. (If you are curious, I had a lot of flins, my favorite kind of way to relate to a guy, was just seeing them once, makeing out and never seeing again… even if they ask for my phone, or give a tip that they might want to continue something). Is there someone who could give me a different perspective? Different exeperiences, or a little hope?

By: Genrih

Genrih — Sat, 14 Jan 2012 18:23:36 +0000

No love.
Forever alone.

By: Suzanne

Suzanne — Sun, 08 Jan 2012 11:58:01 +0000

@Colton,

You sound absolutely wonderful. It’s people like us who get hurt so bad when partners just aren’t deeply interested in the person they’re with. I have a failing business too! And just finished a 2.5 month drinking binge to get over my latest short term fling. Now am starting to come out of it and realise that one of my MRs is the ability of the other to understand and listen to me as well as talk to me. We’re gentle people at heart ; )

By: Phil

Phil — Fri, 30 Dec 2011 09:21:59 +0000

Hi Brionna,

After seeing your comment I felt that I should give you a little advice. Firstly, there is a great article on this site about loving yourself that I would recommend you read, I think that it could do a lot of good for you. 15 can be a difficult age and even though I am a dinosaur compared to you, I still remember how high the peer pressure can be. The symptoms you have described are not uncommon for a young person who is feeling under pressure, however, I would still recommend seeing a doctor to be sure that your symptoms are not the sign of something more physical like a vitamin deficiency or something.

This is all tied up with loving and looking after yourself and, once you start to love yourself, you will find that you will start to become more self confident. This in turn has the effect of making you feel and appear to be more attractive to others. One of the keys to life is how you see yourself and it is never too early or too late to “re-invent” yourself.

I was a terribly shy person when I was younger and some people think that I am still a little shy so I guess that I must be a little but I have learned one big lesson over the years and that is that the main difference between an introvert and an extrovert is one big smile. The other thing I have learned is that the more you try to conquer your shyness, the easier it becomes. When I was your age, it took me a lot of effort to even speak to someone that I did not know. Now though, I am confident enough to walk out onto a stage and make a complete fool of myself in front of hundreds of people. (Something that I seem to do on a disturbingly regular basis nowadays.)

One other thing that I remember from when I was your age was that those who boasted about their sexual expoits usually hadn’t actually done anything and the few who had, usually didn’t talk about it. Of course I didn’t know this until much later but I think that it might help you to know that much of what your friends are telling you is probably greatly exagerated.

One last thing I will say is that getting a boyfriend is not usually that difficult at your age but getting a good one can be. The good news is that often the good guys are the ones that have trouble finding the good girls.

By: Brionna

Brionna — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 06:38:26 +0000

I’m only 15, I know My my age is young and I have a few years before I try to date a settle down, all my friends have boyfriends and/or have had sex. I have never had a boyfriend or have had sex. Sometimes I feel lonely, partially because I’m shy and I have bad skin and I hate my appearance. I believe I will never find love, my skin gets worser and worser, and my hair is falling out, will I ever find love?

By: Nina

Nina — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 17:59:38 +0000

Thank you for this fantastic article; I am in the process of making my MR list now! I wanted to thank you because several of your articles have been really helping me through a difficult time in my life. I check your site every day for more wisdom. Thanks so much.

By: Rachel

Rachel — Sat, 17 Dec 2011 10:28:08 +0000

Hi Tina, great article! I went through a similar experience, always jumping from one relationship to another for fear of loneliness, I can’t imagine I wasted so many years!! Like you, I suddenly I realised this has to stop and I started to love myself more and focus on self development.

Frankly, I’m not an expressive person and when I tried to share my thoughts with my friends, they don’t seem to get it.

I’m so glad I found this article, it says exactly how I feel and I learned a few tips from you too.

Thank you!