Comments on: How to Be Popular

By: Paul

Paul — Mon, 19 Mar 2012 16:40:02 +0000

Thanks for this post.

A few things I’ve noticed about myself:

1) I feel like I have a need for people to really “get” what I’m saying, so sometimes I overexplain myself. The funny thing is I’m often left envious at how succinct and articulate other people can be with far fewer words. That really bothers me!

2) I automatically feel shy when I’m in a situation where I have need to “laugh at myself”. In theory it’s a really easy thing to do, but I tend to find myself making excuses instead.

3) Mark refers to the “0.1 second rule” in a group situation. The conversation, especially when lively like at a party, seems to be a contest of who can start their sentence as soon as the previous person finishes theirs. From my perspective it seems to flow, despite being frustrating. But I’m quietly spoken so instead of trying to get my word in, I just concede defeat and then end up feeling guilty later that I’m ineffectual to break old patterns. What’s more, if I finally decide to say something, I put pressure on myself and become nervous because I question if what I’m about to say is cool or funny enough to warrant the airtime!

I’m sure I’m not the only one! ;-)

By: Lola

Lola — Fri, 03 Jun 2011 18:57:16 +0000

Some things this article says aren’t right, I think. As hard as it may seem people like it when you are yourself, be true to yourself for once. When you are being fake, people can see right through it, they might not say anything but they are thinking it and they grow to hate and be nice, a lot of people do inconsiderate things by accident and get defensive when they are told, people see this as being quite rude and grow to think that you are naturally like that.

Don’t forget that not everyone will like you, whether you are being yourself or someone who you aren’t, but you will always, always, have friends beside you.

By: Polly

Polly — Thu, 30 Dec 2010 21:43:20 +0000

I like the advices =)…
…But there’s something bothering me…
Isn’t this little deceitful? I mean that I know lot of people who hugs everyone(everyday too), smile widely, are very interested in others… But are they really? Do they really concern for you or they doing it just keep the facade? It’s somehow too hypocritical from they’re side.. If you don’t like someone, something, just say it! I hate it when people try to be The Big one, when they actually are real cowards to say what they think just not to be thrown out of the society… Of course society is very important and there are things you should confirm, but the real thing is to be honest and be accepted for who you are(you seem very interested in the person’s condition, but when sth bad happens with him, you actually don’t give a damn except if it isn’t associated with your popularity… real case, btw) They seem like they care, but actually the don’t… They say “Happy Birthday” to you even if they don’t actually have the feelings(I mean in facebook for example you don’t have to tell greetings but you’re doing just to see others what good creature are you.. of course in real situation, when you meet, you have to tell greetings, obviously, i hope you understood^^) and it’s all just to be popular and to look good in the eyes of others and to show “how much you care for people”… I want to be popular too, but I can’t deceive people like that… Although I really do try to care for people… But for example I don’t like touching others much and that’s why I hug only when I haven’t seen them in a long time and they’ve really missed me… But hugging the same person everyday just to think that I’m so happy to see him..? Yeah, there should be things like this, to show your love, true or fake… But I’m sure that people know that’s fake cause they do it too… And if you’re close really with this person they know you appreciated them so you don’t have to prove it in such showing way – if you care this must have already been confirmed when you have helped him with sth or such … Around me people are like that, hypocritical.. so I have a little subjective point of view.. although I’m sure they are really people who hug just because they feel like it.. ;]

By: schoolgirl96

schoolgirl96 — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 21:51:22 +0000

i liked this article as i have a friend who is v.mea smetimes and it really upsets me i will try these skills on hr and i hope they will help … :)

By: Marko V.

Marko V. — Sat, 29 May 2010 11:51:18 +0000

The Popularity Factor | Think Simple Now & The Popularity Factor http://su.pr/1vvBxr

By: Trip Allen

Trip Allen — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 18:51:15 +0000

The Popularity Factor in Relationships- Spot on. http://bit.ly/sNrSN http://bit.ly/5bBad6

By: Sterling Whitehead

Sterling Whitehead — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 00:43:44 +0000

In the workplace…people are usually bias towards people they like, not…towards people who are better at their jobs. http://bit.ly/sNrSN

By: Gretchen Bostrom

Gretchen Bostrom — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 15:40:16 +0000

Why Should We Care About Being Liked? Interesting post: http://ow.ly/Q20d (via @inSocialMedia)

By: Taylor Marek

Taylor Marek — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 11:14:37 +0000

RT @PhilGerb: Interesting RT @inSocialMedia: Why Should We Care About Being Liked? Interesting post: http://ow.ly/Q20d

By: Phil Gerbyshak

Phil Gerbyshak — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 11:04:55 +0000

Interesting RT @inSocialMedia: Why Should We Care About Being Liked? Interesting post: http://ow.ly/Q20d