Life on Purpose: 15 Questions to Discover Your Personal Mission
I believe that we were all sent here for a reason and that we all have significance in the world. I genuinely feel that we are all blessed with unique gifts. The expression of our gifts contributes to a cause greater than ourselves.
First, a personal story
Last year, I was running at full speed; chasing after my dream of money and ‘success’. However, I had forgotten why I was running. Luckily, I met Jim (not his real name). Jim had achieved all the financial goals I was reaching for. He had financial independence, several successful businesses, homes in multiple countries, and the luxury to afford the finest things money could buy.
Through hard work, persistence and sheer action; he had made it! But, Jim was not happy. He did not have the free time to enjoy his wealth. He wanted a family. He wanted peace. He wanted to live his life… but he was not able to. He had too many responsibilities, too much to lose, and too many things to protect. He had spent years building his castle, and now that it is complete, he is spending his time keeping it from eroding.
Getting to know Jim was a life altering and eye opening experience. His words snapped me out of my state of ‘unconsciousness’. It became clear to me that, “I did not want to spend the next 10 years chasing after money, only to find that I’ll be back at the same place I am at today; emotionally, mentally, and spiritually”. My ‘chase’ came to a screeching halt, everything was put on hold, and I spent the next two months re-evaluating my life and purpose.
These questions were running through my mind:
What am I chasing after? Why am I chasing it? What is my purpose? Why was I put here?
While reading “E-Myth: Why Most Small Businesses Don’t Work“, I found myself in tears during the chapter on finding purpose. In that chapter, Michael Gerber asks the readers to do a visualization exercise. Through his guidance, he instructs you to vividly picture the day of your funeral. What do you want your eulogy to consist of? What would your lifetime achievements be? What would matter the most at the end of your life? Is it what you are doing right NOW?
I started writing. It began by listing all the things that are most important to me. I wrote down all the things I wanted to do. I re-visited my personal mission statement. I decided that whatever venture I commit to must align with my personal mission, my values and my goals. For every new opportunity that comes along, I would ask myself how it aligns with my goals. Regardless of how much money I could acquire, if the venture did not align with where I wanted to be, then I would not pursue it. Here is my personal mission statement:
To Empower, motivate and inspire people to living happier and more fulfilled lives.
Here are some of my values and goals:
- What matters most is my connection with myself, being present and feeling blissful.
- What I value most is having meaningful relationships with people. Being able to connect with people on deep levels.
- I plan to be financially independent, and have control of my time and location. I plan to work only on projects and causes that I connect with. I plan to acquire my finances without violating my values, goals and personal mission.
- I plan to travel and live in different parts of the world. Experiencing different cultures, documenting them in photographs and sharing them with others.
- I will buy my mom a house in Vancouver with a ravine in the backyard. That’s a dream of hers and I’d like to fulfill it.
- Having a family is important to me. I desire a deep, loving relationship with my spouse.
- To live everyday fully as if it was my last.
15 Questions to Discover Your Life Purpose
The following are a list of questions that can assist you in discovering your purpose. They are meant as a guide to help you get into a frame of mind that will be conducive to defining your personal mission.
Simple Instructions:
- Take out a few sheets of loose paper and a pen.
- Find a place where you will not be interrupted. Turn off your cell phone.
- Write the answers to each question down. Write the first thing that pops into your head. Write without editing. Use point form. It’s important to write out your answers rather than just thinking about them.
- Write quickly. Give yourself less than 60 seconds a question. Preferably less than 30 seconds.
- Be honest. Nobody will read it. It’s important to write without editing.
- Enjoy the moment and smile as you write.
15 Questions:
1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)
2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?
3. What activities make you lose track of time?
4. What makes you feel great about yourself?
5. Who inspires you most? (Anyone you know or do not know. Family, friends, authors, artists, leaders, etc.) Which qualities inspire you, in each person?
6. What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)
7. What do people typically ask you for help in?
8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?
10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.
11. What are your deepest values?
Select 3 to 6 (See list of words to help you | list in pdf) and prioritize the words in order of importance to you.
12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?
13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?
14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?
15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)
Your Personal Mission Statement
~Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’
- What do I want to do?
- Who do I want to help?
- What is the result? What value will I create?
Steps to Creating Your Personal Mission Statement:
1. Do the exercise with the 15 questions above as quickly as you can.
2. List out actions words you connect with.
a. Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.
3. Based on your answers to the 15 questions. List everything and everyone that you believe you can help.
a. Example: People, creatures, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.
4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘who’ from your above answer benefit from what you ‘do’?
5. Combine steps 2-4 into a sentence, or 2-3 sentences.
What is your purpose? What is your mission? We’d love to hear about your goals and aspirations. Please share with a comment!
step 1:
1.anime and manga
2.past:playing with friends and watching cartoons and anime
now: watching anime and reading manga
3.watching anime, reading manga, drawing, reading other books, sleep
4.my talent in drawing and knowledge in computer and my good english also memorizing too
5.anime char. that I’ve liked so far,because of their traits the ones similar to mine and one that I don’t have
6.drawing and computers
7.in their studies, drawing, or just some errand
8.God’s teachings
9.to not be true to others esp. to myself
10. a.my suffering
b. my sorrow
c. my hatred
d. my wrath
e. my love
f. my respect
g. my sacrifices
h. my regrets
i. revenges
j. anime
k. manga
l. my sins
m. sad memories
n. jealousy
o. envy
p. my helplessness
q. curiosity
r. the ones I liked
s. traitors
t. people I don’t like
u. unfair world
v. the cruel life
w. waste of time
x. awful experiences
y. hard life
z. wanting to die
11. a. Achievement
b. curiosity
c. education
d. play
e. intelligence
f. Family
12. too many challenges I solved them but there’s this one I’m stucked in and I don’t want to solve because its too troublesome
13. anime and manga char.
14. friends, family, acquiantances, relatives, or all the people that knows of my name, my message would be: “please stop pressuring me I’m now too stressed out, If anyone of you hates me very much and wants to kill me I be glad to be killed don’t hold back I gave you permission and If I wasn’t killed please understand me more don’t make your own conclussions or judgements on me because you really dont know the real me, Please just THAT (suicide wont do, killing myself is a sin. well maybe telling someone to kill me is a sin itself,mm…but oh well, if someone kill me I’d be happy than waiting for my life to end even if I know that killing me would just add up as their sin, I’ve lived too long, 13 yrs. is too long for me). ”
15. I dont know and it won’t help but I can help in my own way.
if for ex. I had a job and became rich I could give off all my money to those who have needs of it but try to know them before giving them money for my donation not to be of a waste.
step 2: understand
step 3: people, creatures
step 4: maybe they can benefit and have a more easier life, with a secured.
step 5: In the past and now, I’ve helped many people from their troubles. After helping me, of course they’d say “thanks / thank you” and I’ll reply “your welcome” of course. I’m not expecting for them to help me in exchange of helping them before. But I can say that it’s just human nature, for them to forget everything and just say “huh? really! I dont remember such thing” like that. Or they’ll just ask and ask for your help then always helping them in everything. Expecting for them to return the favor sometimes. They can benefit fr. me. But what benefit will I have God’s smile and blessing in helping others? is that it? then I’ll be selfish I’m tired letting them do as they please. Am I a dog being ordered and always answering in their request of course not.I wont stay quiet like that all the time. Animals are better than humans. Just tame them, they’ll do what you say. talk to them, they’ll listen to you. If you’re alone they’re there for you. I can benefit more in helping animals than humans. Buut humans are pitiful so I’ll just help them. But there’s one thing I want them to do, I don’t care if they won’t repay my kindness even if I’m in a pinch it’s fine, just UNDERSTAND me that’s all.
Hmm…. maybe it helped me a bit
But I still don’t know what my purpose is ,but oh well…I’ll just pass the time and await my death.
Thanks Tina. The 15 questions are really powerful, sharp tools for getting the process started.
Thanks Tina. The 15 questions are powerful, sharp tools to get the process started.
I’ve done several exercises like this and so far I think this was the best. My personal mission is…
Empower and inspire young parents/future parents to connect with their family, discover friends and have awesome experiences through playing, moving and producing.
I am experiencing a very challenging time in my life at the moment and welcome your practical and simple advice.
I now realize that this time will pass and that I am on the right path, harnessing the now and moving forward in my life.
Thanks again.
This made me cry. I understand I aways think about people… My purpose… I belive I’ll be a teacher. I like to write my books, but what makes me smile so much is guide and teach people, helping then with theory of life. Some pp call me coach, others call me filosofer. I just dont like the actual system of education… thats why I’m not on a high school. I’ld like to change some things. I belive in future… Peace, science and evolution. But I’m a coward believing I have ADD sometimes, cz I cant pay attention on normal things, only what makes me fell intelectually estimulated.
Thank u. Now I know a little bit more about myself.
I’d like to say this helped…. but like every other one I’ve read, it didn’t. I sometimes feel as if I’m the only one NOT wearing rose tinted glasses.
My answers are bellow. Don’t dismiss them as someone who doesn’t want to change, or someone who is just here to pick a fight. They are true, deeply felt, and I believe correct, views.
1. What makes me smile? A good comedian who points out the utter stupidity of humanity.
2. Favorite things to do? Get high… it blots out the frustration and feelings of futility.
3. Activities that make me lose time? Video games, drugs.
4. Feel great about myself? I have never once felt great about myself.
5. Who inspires me? Not one soul.
6. Naturally good at? Nothing. I am adequate at almost anything, good at nothing.
7. People ask me to: they tend not to… I discourage it.
8. If I had to teach something… no idea. I don’t know anything to teach.
9. What would I regret? If I died, and somehow found out that it didn’t have to be this way. At 43 I am close to concluding that it does have to be, however.
10. Can’t answer this. I won’t make 90 years, I won’t be blissfull, I have no achievements, and have acquired less than zero.
11. Deepest values? I still have no idea what this means. Any person will violate any value at any time it suits them… meaning none of them are very deep, for any one.
12. Biggest challanges: Staying alive. How’d I do it? Evolution – I can’t seem to pull the trigger. I place the blame wholly on God – any God that would create “All-This” is a waste of deification.
13. Causes I believe in or connect with? Laughable question. None. Many are worthy – none are possible.
14. Message to large group of people? No idea what message or to who – they wouldn’t listen anyway.
15. I have no talents, no passions, and extremely fluid values and less than zero interest in “contributing” because it won’t fix anything. Feeding homeless people just leaves them more money for drugs. Rescuing animals just leaves us with too many dogs and cats. Curing world hunger would further over-populate the earth. Same with curing (insert disease of choice here) – just more people not dying, and putting more strain on the Earths ecosystem. Kicking off Armegeadon might be a good one to start with. Man deserves no less.
Man, all this is getting repeated. Internet is filled with all this. The same ideas have been re-written a million times. Now I don’t know why…I used to love all this, but now…it, sort of, feels like empty. I am now being more inclined towards hard-core spirituality. I think i have gown out of all this.
I loved this post! I am in a similar phase of life as the things described here. Like some of the comments said, a lot of this information has been repeated other places but a few of your “15 Questions to Discover Your Life Purpose” really made me think and re-evaluate some of my core beliefs. Thanks for sharing! :)
hi Tina u r doing u r doing really a great human service .i always want to support such kind of activity. so keep on doing this work my all best support to u anytime .
Check this out: http://heylookaround.blogspot.in/2012/06/purpose-of-my-life.html. I am sure it will help. :-). Cheers!
Great post and very thoughtful. I have been looking for this information and the advice will be useful to me.
@Graham- I can relate to what you are saying. But the only reason behind all that negativity, if I may say so, is that we tend to complicate the simple things. You don’t have to keep pressing your mind again and again to find that ‘purpose’ for you. Just choose something you are good at or you would simply like to do, and then have the courage to do it. Stay happy and content with it. Be it earning millions or doing charities or simply sitting at home watching tv.
@Graham Fraser- I can relate to what you are saying. I think we tend to complicate the simple things in life. You don’t have to press your mind again and again by writing on sheets of paper to inform you about that ‘PURPOSE’. This way you are asking your mind to give you orders. It should be the other way round. Just chose the set of things you like to do during a normal day and have the courage to do them. Again and again. Then, just stay happy and content with it. Be it making millions, doind charities or simply sitting at home watching tv. Keep it simple.
Sorry for the repeat. The comment would not get uploaded and I had to write it all again.
Thank you, thank you, thank you …… I have looked and look for this very thing. Thank you for your willingness to share this with others!
Hi, here to share my mission statement from this exercise:
‘My purpose is to protect nature and help people find inner peace thru delivering the truth thru legal/technical/reasoning methods so that everyone can enjoy nature and live life.’
How did I achieve the above statement?
I love law, contracts, legal cases and love my religion. I find it distressing that Islam is being presented in such a shallow and incomplete manner in my country and am fascinated with Islamic literature written by Muslim converts in other countries.
I have always loved explaining Islam in a very simple/logical yet wholesome way but I’ve never found out how I could combine that with my love for law.
Having this mission statement won’t solve the problem, but it sets the foundation for the building of an empire.
Hi, Well i would like to answer these questions but i find myself not being able to answer any of them. Im 24 years old and just cant seem to get my life together. I just dont understand why i cant answer these questions.
Thank you so much for this article, it has been very helpful!!
Free will was the first choice given to Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden: the choice to do as exactly instructed and be satisfied with the results or to do as one pleased and experience the results (good and bad)–whether satisifed or not.
Tina Su’s article suggests one of many means for examining one’s motives, beliefs, values, wants, desires, goals, wishes, etc., whether fully or partially, or not at all. Whatever model you choose, it stands to reason that if YOU don’t mean anything to YOU, then others will have a hard time connecting with the YOU that involuntarily presents him/herself to the world.
There is no ‘undefined self,’ just as there is no such thing as ‘complete nothingness.’ One’s life constantly evolves whether we spend it climbing high or crouching low; thus, each of us shares the exact same span of time regardless of how that time is spent. Again, herein lies the individual choice of how that time gets spent. Having said that, I took the time to read this article and all of the ensuing posts within a span of 2-1/2 hours on this day. I, like others, was in search of the mechanism (step 1-2-3) for assessing that which is the ‘essence’ of me, and assigning tangible movement to that ‘essence’ toward meaningful life goals. As someone above aptly pointed out, the mind and spirit need an assignment or the body will aimlessly flop about and flitter away its most valuable commodity, which is time. Likewise, everybody in a body is bound by this same universal law regardless of their spiritual beliefs, ideologies, feelings, or one’s personal perception of ‘nothingness.’
And, I don’t know who said it first or best, but the “journey of 1000 miles begins with the first step,” so don’t be afraid to take that step–whatever it is. Answering these 15 questions truthfully is one of many steps, so infuse YOUR JOURNEY with courage and YOUR DESTINY will reveal itself as you move along. Judging from all of the above posts, we are clearly on different paths to some tangible place or another by Divine Design, which is totally purposeful in the larger scheme of things!
Using my unique powers for good,
Steppin’ Lively
i like it
A lot of people don’t know what they want to do in their life. But I don’t think anyone knows at first. You realize it as you take the journey.
I love your 15 questions to ask yourself. That can make a huge difference in getting clarity for your life.
Thanks to this article, I think I have found my life’s purpose or personal mission! I felt it when I thought about it and it got me all passionate. I didn’t expect to feel like this but thank you so much! It happened near the end of the 15 questions and it got me all “emotional” somehow. I was hoping to find it out tonight and I believe I did! Here is what I wrote for those last sentences: (I had to did DEEP)
“I would like to inspire people to find their passions and live their life to the fullest. Set reachable goals and achieve them, constantly doing this and improving themselves every day of their life. I want to guide them to a life that they never thought they’d have and organize it so that they will always succeed and live an amazing life.”
That’s Beautiful Thilan! Thank you for sharing it with us.
I’m so proud of you for your courage to dig deep. :)
Warm Hug,
Tina
Hi Tina,
Thank you so much for this amazing article on finding your life purpose. I worked through your questions (this is something I’ve been struggling with for ages) and found it very helpful to pinpoint my passions and direction in life. I resonated very much with your mission statement and may adopt it as my own!
Thanks Tina and Blessings from India. This helped me a lot. I’ve just created my personal mission statement using your 15 questions. I’m feeling great. Bless and love xoxo