The 9 Step Television Diet
Over the holiday break, I traveled back to Canada to visit my parents. Since I don’t watch TV at home, I decided I would indulge my senses and watch a little. “Hey, it’s the break. Relax, let it loose and watch all those shows I miss out on.” At the end of two weeks, I was an addict. I sat and watched so many random shows that I’m embarrassed just thinking about it.
Coming from a life where the TV never gets used, I found that the change in me was swift and noticeable. My holiday daily routine went something like this: sleep in, lazily walk into the kitchen looking for food, turn on the TV to see what’s on while I eat, watch TV for several hours, spend some time with my family, eventually return to the TV and watch for several more hours.
At the end, I felt so drained and tired. Even with knowing how it made me feel, I continued to repeat this each day until the day I left. Like I was under a magical spell. What’s worst, after coming home, I downloaded all the missed episodes of Tila Tequila’s ‘Shot at Love’ and watched them. Even knowing that it was trash for my mind, I did it anyway.
Yikes! Now, I needed to do something about it.
Perhaps you can relate. I don’t mean with trashy reality shows, but how TV has the ability to grab a hold of us.
I wanted to understand: why do we keep turning the TV on?
Before we’re about to turn on the TV, it feels as if it is the best thing to do at this moment. It’s easy; just one flick of a button. When we’re watching it, we don’t have to think, we just sit back passively while absorbing the bright lights and sounds, characters and plot lines. We seemingly forget everything else while we are entirely focussed. Television becomes a nice excuse to delay our responsibilities.
We watch TV, even if there isn’t anything good on. We find ourselves surfing through all the channels, hoping to find anything to keep us there. I feels so much easier than any alternate, which would mean leaving our comfortable position. Before we know it, we’ve been staring at the TV for longer than we planned and delayed what really needed to get done.
Let me ask you, how do you feel after getting up from watching TV? Do you feel good about yourself? Personally, I feel terrible; guilty of procrastinating and frustrated with my lack of willpower.
Here are some effects of TV watching based on my experience:
- Mental Clutter – Most things on TV are useless and uninspiring. We are drawn to them to satisfy our curiosity and fear of being alone without things to do. It almost gives us a sense of temporary purpose and a great way to kill time. Most simply becomes unnecessary noise that clutters my mind and inner space.
- Mentally Draining – I feel tired and drained. Literally, after staring at the screen passively, my head is numb and I feel sleepy. This is because our brains are actively working to process the highly visual and auditory information, even though we are sitting there passively receiving the information.
- Highly Addictive – I want to watch more. After watching the show we’ve planned to watch, what do we do afterwards? The natural tendency is to click around and see what else is on. It’s not unusual to set out wanting to watch one show and ending up watching several more hours of unplanned TV ‘action’.
- Time Consuming – Due to its addictive qualities, it has the tendency to suck your time. You are not able to do other things more empowering or beneficial.
- Feeling Crappy – I never feel good about myself after I finally pry my eyes from the TV set. With the exception of some documentaries and shows, most shows don’t leave you empowered or inspired.
- Procrastination – You get drawn in. You get distracted and delay your tasks. You encourage yourself to procrastinate. I noticed this tendency in myself, as I am procrastinating to complete this blog post.
- Kills Imagination – I remember reading a study several years ago on child development and imagination. They concluded that reading tends to stimulate imagination, and extensive TV watching suppresses imagination. When we are watching TV, we are passively receiving and processing visual information, and little imagination is required. Whereas when reading, you are actively reading words and then converting them into visual information or meaning.
- Bad Posture – It’s easy to slide down into couch when we relax. When we are absorbed by a riveting show, we tend to disregard any physical sensation and rest in the same position. This can’t possibly be conducive for our physical health. On my flight home from my holiday, I could barely sit up because of pain in my lower back.
- Guilt – Naturally, we feel guilty when we haven’t accomplished what we’ve set out to do. Once you realize that you are no further ahead than you were when you started, your conscience jumps on you.
Solution? How to Overcome TV Addiction?
Well, pleading with myself to stop watching these silly shows didn’t work. I needed more motivation.
Here are some strategies and tips that helped me in conquering my recent TV addiction.
I hope they can be of help in your life.
1. Focus on Your Food When Eating
It’s so tempting to turn on the TV while we eat. We tell ourselves, “I’m gonna be eating and doing nothing else. Might as well be entertained as I eat.” But before we know it, we’ll end up spending more time than necessary in front of the television, and not really tasting or enjoying our food. Also, I tend to overeat when I’m distracted, which leaves me feeling bloated and lazy.
Next time you eat, try fully focusing on the wonderful aromas and flavors in your food when and on nothing else. Concentrate on the taste and texture of your food. Feel it giving you energy as you eat. This is actually a form of meditation that can center you. Try it!
2. Break Old Routines
If your habit is to turn on the TV immediately after you come home, then try changing your routine to break the habit. What can you do for 10 minutes after coming home instead of flicking on the TV? Connect with a friend? Read an inspirational story? Have a snack? Get exercise? Do some Yoga or Meditation?
3. Plan Your Escape Route
Before turning on the TV for a specific show, know exactly what you’re going to do after the show. It helps to write the task out on paper along with reasons why you should do this task. For example, “After watching the Amazing Race at 9pm, I will go out for a run because it makes me feel healthy and gives me energy.”
4. Get Used To Using the OFF Button
Once you know exactly what you’re going to do immediately following a show, practice turning off the TV once the show is done.
5. Use Television As A Reward
Instead of saying, “I’ll go do my task when I’m done watching my show.” Develop the discipline to reward yourself with the show when you are done with the task.
6. Ask Yourself Why?
Find a quiet place without interruption. Close your eyes for several minutes and focus on your breath. Then ask yourself: Why do I want to watch this TV show? What do I have to gain? We are all intelligent beings and we all know the answers deep within us. When I asked myself this, I realized that it was because these shows provided a convenient excuse for me to avoid my responsibilities. It was easier and more comfortable than ‘work’ that has long term benefits.
7. Simple Reduction
List out all the shows you watch and see which ones you can cut out. Start with eliminating one show and gradually release the unnecessary shows one by one. Remember to ask yourself when evaluating each show, “What am I gaining from watching this? Is it going to bring me lasting happiness and fulfillment?”
8. Television Allowance
Give yourself a self-imposed limit to TV watching in a day or week. This will force you to put your television appetite on a diet. Try starting with half the hours you currently watch. I have reduced myself to watching one hour of TV a week: “The Amazing Race” every Sunday.
9. Visualized Pain
Did you know that we are willing to go to more extremes to avoid pain than we are to gain pleasure? We tend to choose TV over a responsibility because in that moment, we fail to see the pain of not following through on our responsibilities.
Try this: Close your eyes. Visualize the pain you would feel by not doing a task. Make it as real as possible, feel it with all senses. Intensify the feeling. Double the intensity several times if you can. After a few minutes, imagine the pleasure and freedom after you’ve completed the task (and are rewarded with the show). Again visualize and feel it with absolute intensity.
Hypothetical Situation: You have a report to complete before tomorrow morning at 9am. To visualize the pain, you could imagine the stress created from procrastination later on that night and the agitated feeling you’ll experience the next day from lack of sleep. For pleasure, you could imagine the wonderful feelings of self-empowerment and freedom now that you have your report completed. See yourself sleeping at a reasonable hour and feeling refreshed and energetic the next day.
What are your thoughts on TV watching? How does extended TV viewing make you feel? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
Very interesting reflection, I think not only TV can be addictive, various web-based media such as Youtube videos, podcast from different site can be as addictive.
I notice that i could easily spend heavy chunk of my time on surfing the web from one clip to another, very much similar to TV channel surfing. I definitely feel that despite its entertaining value and sometimes the propagation of information, TV or web-surfing can easily turn into a time-waster.
Good list of solutions, esp. with focus when you eating, i remember when i was a kid, my grandma would always turn off the TV during dinner, telling me – focus on your food! :-)
I have already given up TV… but if I haven’t, your advice would most definitely work… Especially the PAIN part.
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Hi Tina!
I like the first step you’re sharing, enjoying the food instead of eating with watching!
I’m not so much watching TV recently, no time to be wasted on TV, I watched only when I really want to look for a show that I like, and not browsing other channels after that.
Now, my temptation comes from the TV series DVD, it’s always tempting to see the subsequent episodes and we ended up wasting so much time. So what I do know limiting what TV series I’m going to watch… better not starting than I can’t stop
Great article as always!!
Welcome back Tina, happy new year to you!
Robert
Totally agree. In addition, why do we need TV when we have the internet. Hopefully it’s pretty new, and there are more lights than darks so far. Open source seems to grow, monopolies on the tinterweb are not like in the RealWorld(tm) and we all choose what to read/see/interact with and what to share, that’s fantastic no?
My personal experience with no having TV at home was more than graceful. I’m early going to live alone and I’ll be sure not to carry a TV with me on the new flat, for sure.
Hi Tina,
So true … TV can truly be addictive. Because I work from home, I’ve had to become very self-disciplined where the TV is concerned. I only watch shows I really want to watch (love my DVR!) rather than allowing any old junk into my brain. And I don’t watch the news or anything violent, because it feels toxic to me.
Having said that, I do feel like the “zoning out” quality of TV watching sometimes seems to recharge my batteries. I watch a little bit just to step away from whatever I’m working on, and when my mind is ready to get back to work, I get bored with the TV and go back to being productive.
All things in moderation, right?
Blessings,
Andrea
I don’t watch much tv, other than MMA (cage fighting) events. But I had a similar experience over the holidays. I got into a chilled out, non-productive, lethargic zone and had a difficult time getting back into work mode in the New Year. For me it was playing video games, going to movies & listening to fiction audiobooks.
Maybe with the stress and frenetic pace of holiday shopping, parties, etc., we just need to slow down and like Andrea suggested “recharge our batteries”? The schedule change of having days off during the week also can throw things off.
Whether addicted to TV, movies, shopping, partying, or video games, these are all activities that all us to temporarily avoid the rest of our lives. One of the wonderful things about your article is that most of these steps apply for whatever your current “escape” is. Especially Step 5, using your escape as a reward.
Thank you for the great article Tina.
I don’t watch TV directly, I tape some shows and watch them later in front of my NordicTrack treadmill or jogging trampoline in my study. I never sit to watch, I exercise. I did take a exercise vacation this holiday season after buying the series The Gilmore Girls. I find it addictive, but it has witty dialogue and lovable characters so it’s stimulating rather than mind-deadening. And the extra exercise gave my body a boost, too.
Nice blog. I gave up TV for the longest time and found other hobbies such as reading, working on photoshop, learning programming or web design, music, etc.
Now that I got subscription TV service again, I am always on the tube again. Which is bad as I take things forgranted and get lazy at the same time.
I preferred it when the only source of television was normal air TV and I only watched shows like Heroes or 24 and whenever there was a sports game, I would watch it. I valued my television time with quality programming that I am very interested in.
Good and bad, just need to manage it. Thanks for the read.
Good one, Tina.
Here are my tactics:
1- dont turn it on to begin with.
2- wait for a commercial to turn it off
3 – ask someone else to turn it off for you.
4- start with muting the tv and then turn it off.
:)
Tina, a very helpful article for those who now, after the holidays, have to ween themselves off TV. :)
Excellent post T.
who told you what was going on in my house as of late?!
I discovered SoapNet and this “One Tree Hill” and it was all downhill from there. It doesn’t help that they offer these marathons especially on days where I just want to hide from the world and numb my senses..
I have begun to recover from that addiction myself. I left from never watching TV to living in front of it and frankly it’s not the best thing in the world – despite the cheap thrills you get when you start doing it.
I started working out again recently to get myself out of the house and it didn’t take long at all to begin feeling better and in control again
I can attest to the usefulness of your tips because I have already began making those changes.
now about that StumbleUpon … *shakes her head*
Hi Tina,
Your experience reminds me why I cut the umbilical cord of cable. Too much television leaves me exhausted and frustrated with my procrastination. Since realizing that, I became more conscious of how I used my time. John Lennon once said that tv numbed him out more than pot which pretty much sums up its addictive/narcotic effect.
I’ve found that small doses of quality shows are ok but I’m vigilant against falling back into the careless channel surfing habit.
yes, that feeling of being totally zapped and drained after a long TV marathon is one of the worst ever. i always feel the most unproductive after TV/internet sessions, and i always feel the best when i’m at my desk (w/o the cpu) and just writing. great extensive post on curing this horrible habit tina!
I love the advice on engaging visualizations. And focusing on the pain is certainly a new twist. I find that some of these strategies of gaining self mastery could be applied to other areas of life – which is great.
Hi I Had a similar experience when we visited my parents this Christmas so the article is very relevant and useful to me. I also blogged about it and added your site on my blog.
Thanks for the great advise and Happy new year. :-)
X Matin
Thanks for sharing your TV thoughts. You inspired me to mix it up. Tonight instead of sitting in front of the tube, I chowed in my kitchen listening to WORT in Madison, WI (awesome community radio) and took in some tunes played by some middle school guys during the open access hour.
I fight about the television all the time with my husband and 9-year old daughter, who are both big tv watchers. Their argument is that they watch highly educational shows that increase their knowledge. I say, read a book. Interestingly, my daughter, who I think watches way too much tv, is a voracious above-grade reader, avid knitter, consummate scrapbooker and a straight A student. She is also a beginning violinist, a pretty decent basketball player and fluent in two languages. Got to wonder…
Here is a great reference
http://www.screenawareness.org
I can sympathize with this. I just watched the 90 mi nute “I Love New York 2” reunion show and feel dirty now.
Hi Tina,
I have already cut down my time spend on TV sometimes back. It can really be time consuming and unproductive. Great advice!
Great post. I bought my television at a garage sale in 1975. I think I paid $100.00 for it. Sometime in 1999 it just stopped working. I haven’t had any desire to replace the TV and I don’t miss it.
Saw a wonderful tee shirt in San Francisco that really expresses my thoughts on television.
Theatre is culture
Film is art
Televison is furniture
Happy New Year
Wow! That’s the power of habit.
Seems like you have developed the habit unconsciously. Habit can be easily formed when we do something continuously.
I am so happy and grateful now that I do not have any television set at home too and I already give up watching TV for more than a decade. :-)
Well my thoughts on TV viewing is that I find it relaxing. Its very relaxing to be able to come home from the gym or work, make something to eat and unwind in front of the TV. It can get you the same effect as reading a book, playing a game, or really doing anything that is not work. At least it does for me.
“1. Focus on Your Food When Eating”
It can actually be a very good thing to watch TV while you eat. it takes time for your mind to register you are full so its very easy for someone to finish off their plate, still feel hungry and take seconds. By sitting in front of the TV for 30 minutes you’ll probably eat slower (so as not to miss as much of the show) and become full before you even finish your plate (or shortly after finishing it and not want seconds). I’m not saying people cannot eat slower without a TV, or that people can’t consiencously keep from taking seconds when they shouldn’t, but this is an easy way to avoid that. I found that I became full with less food when I went to eating in front of the TV.
Thanks for posting this! Years ago I quit the easy way: I gave my TV away. It might sound extreme, but at the end of your life, you will not be saying “I just wish I’d spent more time sitting on my butt watching TV”. There’s *always* something better on in the real world.
Quitting TV was like quitting a part-time job. And I truly would not have made so much progress in my life since then if I’d been watching TV. I was addicted pretty badly too.
And then your evenings are free to meet all the other people who don’t watch TV. There are a lot out there. And they like to do stuff.
Great timing on this article. I recently canceled cable which automatically reduced my tv watching since there were far less choices. I gave away two of my three tvs and only have a tv in the den, which is far away from the kitchen and living room, where i spend most of my time. Now if I could just get rid of my computer…