The 9 Step Television Diet
Over the holiday break, I traveled back to Canada to visit my parents. Since I don’t watch TV at home, I decided I would indulge my senses and watch a little. “Hey, it’s the break. Relax, let it loose and watch all those shows I miss out on.” At the end of two weeks, I was an addict. I sat and watched so many random shows that I’m embarrassed just thinking about it.
Coming from a life where the TV never gets used, I found that the change in me was swift and noticeable. My holiday daily routine went something like this: sleep in, lazily walk into the kitchen looking for food, turn on the TV to see what’s on while I eat, watch TV for several hours, spend some time with my family, eventually return to the TV and watch for several more hours.
At the end, I felt so drained and tired. Even with knowing how it made me feel, I continued to repeat this each day until the day I left. Like I was under a magical spell. What’s worst, after coming home, I downloaded all the missed episodes of Tila Tequila’s ‘Shot at Love’ and watched them. Even knowing that it was trash for my mind, I did it anyway.
Yikes! Now, I needed to do something about it.
Perhaps you can relate. I don’t mean with trashy reality shows, but how TV has the ability to grab a hold of us.
I wanted to understand: why do we keep turning the TV on?
Before we’re about to turn on the TV, it feels as if it is the best thing to do at this moment. It’s easy; just one flick of a button. When we’re watching it, we don’t have to think, we just sit back passively while absorbing the bright lights and sounds, characters and plot lines. We seemingly forget everything else while we are entirely focussed. Television becomes a nice excuse to delay our responsibilities.
We watch TV, even if there isn’t anything good on. We find ourselves surfing through all the channels, hoping to find anything to keep us there. I feels so much easier than any alternate, which would mean leaving our comfortable position. Before we know it, we’ve been staring at the TV for longer than we planned and delayed what really needed to get done.
Let me ask you, how do you feel after getting up from watching TV? Do you feel good about yourself? Personally, I feel terrible; guilty of procrastinating and frustrated with my lack of willpower.
Here are some effects of TV watching based on my experience:
- Mental Clutter – Most things on TV are useless and uninspiring. We are drawn to them to satisfy our curiosity and fear of being alone without things to do. It almost gives us a sense of temporary purpose and a great way to kill time. Most simply becomes unnecessary noise that clutters my mind and inner space.
- Mentally Draining – I feel tired and drained. Literally, after staring at the screen passively, my head is numb and I feel sleepy. This is because our brains are actively working to process the highly visual and auditory information, even though we are sitting there passively receiving the information.
- Highly Addictive – I want to watch more. After watching the show we’ve planned to watch, what do we do afterwards? The natural tendency is to click around and see what else is on. It’s not unusual to set out wanting to watch one show and ending up watching several more hours of unplanned TV ‘action’.
- Time Consuming – Due to its addictive qualities, it has the tendency to suck your time. You are not able to do other things more empowering or beneficial.
- Feeling Crappy – I never feel good about myself after I finally pry my eyes from the TV set. With the exception of some documentaries and shows, most shows don’t leave you empowered or inspired.
- Procrastination – You get drawn in. You get distracted and delay your tasks. You encourage yourself to procrastinate. I noticed this tendency in myself, as I am procrastinating to complete this blog post.
- Kills Imagination – I remember reading a study several years ago on child development and imagination. They concluded that reading tends to stimulate imagination, and extensive TV watching suppresses imagination. When we are watching TV, we are passively receiving and processing visual information, and little imagination is required. Whereas when reading, you are actively reading words and then converting them into visual information or meaning.
- Bad Posture – It’s easy to slide down into couch when we relax. When we are absorbed by a riveting show, we tend to disregard any physical sensation and rest in the same position. This can’t possibly be conducive for our physical health. On my flight home from my holiday, I could barely sit up because of pain in my lower back.
- Guilt – Naturally, we feel guilty when we haven’t accomplished what we’ve set out to do. Once you realize that you are no further ahead than you were when you started, your conscience jumps on you.
Solution? How to Overcome TV Addiction?
Well, pleading with myself to stop watching these silly shows didn’t work. I needed more motivation.
Here are some strategies and tips that helped me in conquering my recent TV addiction.
I hope they can be of help in your life.
1. Focus on Your Food When Eating
It’s so tempting to turn on the TV while we eat. We tell ourselves, “I’m gonna be eating and doing nothing else. Might as well be entertained as I eat.” But before we know it, we’ll end up spending more time than necessary in front of the television, and not really tasting or enjoying our food. Also, I tend to overeat when I’m distracted, which leaves me feeling bloated and lazy.
Next time you eat, try fully focusing on the wonderful aromas and flavors in your food when and on nothing else. Concentrate on the taste and texture of your food. Feel it giving you energy as you eat. This is actually a form of meditation that can center you. Try it!
2. Break Old Routines
If your habit is to turn on the TV immediately after you come home, then try changing your routine to break the habit. What can you do for 10 minutes after coming home instead of flicking on the TV? Connect with a friend? Read an inspirational story? Have a snack? Get exercise? Do some Yoga or Meditation?
3. Plan Your Escape Route
Before turning on the TV for a specific show, know exactly what you’re going to do after the show. It helps to write the task out on paper along with reasons why you should do this task. For example, “After watching the Amazing Race at 9pm, I will go out for a run because it makes me feel healthy and gives me energy.”
4. Get Used To Using the OFF Button
Once you know exactly what you’re going to do immediately following a show, practice turning off the TV once the show is done.
5. Use Television As A Reward
Instead of saying, “I’ll go do my task when I’m done watching my show.” Develop the discipline to reward yourself with the show when you are done with the task.
6. Ask Yourself Why?
Find a quiet place without interruption. Close your eyes for several minutes and focus on your breath. Then ask yourself: Why do I want to watch this TV show? What do I have to gain? We are all intelligent beings and we all know the answers deep within us. When I asked myself this, I realized that it was because these shows provided a convenient excuse for me to avoid my responsibilities. It was easier and more comfortable than ‘work’ that has long term benefits.
7. Simple Reduction
List out all the shows you watch and see which ones you can cut out. Start with eliminating one show and gradually release the unnecessary shows one by one. Remember to ask yourself when evaluating each show, “What am I gaining from watching this? Is it going to bring me lasting happiness and fulfillment?”
8. Television Allowance
Give yourself a self-imposed limit to TV watching in a day or week. This will force you to put your television appetite on a diet. Try starting with half the hours you currently watch. I have reduced myself to watching one hour of TV a week: “The Amazing Race” every Sunday.
9. Visualized Pain
Did you know that we are willing to go to more extremes to avoid pain than we are to gain pleasure? We tend to choose TV over a responsibility because in that moment, we fail to see the pain of not following through on our responsibilities.
Try this: Close your eyes. Visualize the pain you would feel by not doing a task. Make it as real as possible, feel it with all senses. Intensify the feeling. Double the intensity several times if you can. After a few minutes, imagine the pleasure and freedom after you’ve completed the task (and are rewarded with the show). Again visualize and feel it with absolute intensity.
Hypothetical Situation: You have a report to complete before tomorrow morning at 9am. To visualize the pain, you could imagine the stress created from procrastination later on that night and the agitated feeling you’ll experience the next day from lack of sleep. For pleasure, you could imagine the wonderful feelings of self-empowerment and freedom now that you have your report completed. See yourself sleeping at a reasonable hour and feeling refreshed and energetic the next day.
What are your thoughts on TV watching? How does extended TV viewing make you feel? We’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments.
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But It’s not only TV. I find myself download whole seasons of favorite TV shows (like Man vs. Wild) off the Internet.
Then, having a little while, I start watching one of the episodes. It often ends in the middle of the night, when I finish watching all the episodes in the downloaded season.
The cure I found so far is setting a timer in a mobile phone to ring in, say, an hour after You start watching.
For me, same thing applies to unconsiously browsing across dozens of useless web pages concerning a topic I wanted to find out a little bit about.
Gotta watch out for addictions, not only TV!
Interesting! (Jean : Cheerful Monk, I, too, am a GG’s adict! That’s too funny!) I started watching TV a LOT when I was 10 and my parents divorced. I’d come home from my new school in a new city (where I had few friends), and the television kept me company while my mom worked. It filled an emotional void. Honestly, it still does. I’ve lived alone for the past six years, and it’s as if the TV is my roommate.
However, I don’t have cable (which helps). Like many others, though, I could use an hour or two less in front of the thing a week. I’ll have to try some of your tips, Tina, so thanks for this post!
Interesting that most of the comments are from TV non-watchers. Maybe everyone else is too busy…watching TV.
I also loathe the hold that TV has over me. But there are some programs I enjoy and don’t want to miss and so don’t want to get rid of it completely. (And on sick days when reading is too much, TV is great for whiling away the miserable hours before I’m tired enough to go back to sleep).
Solution (and tip for cutting down): record everything you want to watch (TiVo is great for this). I don’t watch any television at all during the week, and on the weekend I’m seldom interested in
a) watching everything I _thought_ I wanted to watch
b) watching more than a few hours worth.
But I have the comfort of knowing I could, if I wanted to.
H.
I think Netflix is a pretty good alternative if there are shows you just NEED to watch and you can be patient enough for them to come out on DVD. Limit yourself to one of the 1 or 2 DVD at a time plans so you don’t have a huge amount of content at once. (DVDs normally run 2-3 hours a piece, I think. So that *helps* to cut down on the channel surfing, but does take some willpower to not watch the whole DVD.
When my husband (then boyfriend) got our first apartment with just the two of us, we dropped cable and it hasn’t been in my homes since. I much prefer to pay around $20 a month for DVDs I want then $65 or more for cable that has a lot of stuff I don’t want yet still have to pay for.
Another way I combat media noise is a no internet, TV, or shopping on Sunday rule, unless there is an emergency. It encourages us to do interactive things together, which I often find more fulfilling than vegging out together.
As for your list, I might have to apply it to my internet usage if I’m not careful. As some of your other readers have said, it is super easy to go off on tangents on the internet. Especially with Firefox’s tabs!
I like movies more then regular TV shows/programs, but I do love Discovery, Discovery Health, and the History channels. For me, I find them educational, while being entertaining. However, every word you wrote can be applied to almost any addiction or avoidance we have. Hmmm it was an eye opener, I will pay attention to my behavior in general to see where I can improve myself! :)
Have a nice day Tina!
Every time I watch TV, I fall asleep!!!!!!!!!!! I can count on that to make me sleepy if I’m too wired and need to get some rest.
One person I used to date used to want me to sit and watch shows with him, or watch him play video games. Instead, I would curl up beside him on the couch with a good book. I thought that was fair. He didn’t!–lol
TV is fun for a little while, but I do experience the symptoms that you outlined above.
I don’t have cable, Direct TV, Tivo and stuff like that. I still have rabbit ears on my TV that only gets turned on to watch DVD’s and old VHS tapes.
I even feel guilty when I’m watching certain movies. If it’s a documentary (in the special interest section), then I feel better. I’m learning.
Thanks for this post Tina.
Hugs,
Megan
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Recently i read a similarly themed article, though it went a step further and claimed that television “broke the minds of three generations and turned a Democracy into an empire”. A bit morbid, though it made for an interesting read.
I have to admit, i’ve been on the occasional TV binge from time to time. Looking back, i’m quite certain there were plenty more useful things i could have been doing instead, rather than escaping from reality.
Generally though i find much more value in reading a book or taking a nice long walk outside.
i didn’t read the whole thing but i bookmarked it so i am going to come back and read it. i just wanted to say i watched one episode of tila tequila shot at love, just “one” and i was hooked, i sat at my friends house another half hour just to watch the next one and then i was freaking out b/c i didn’t know when it would come on again and telling my boyfriend he had to download it for me. i got over it after i hadn’t watched tv for a while but it just showed me how addicting tv can really be.
Don’t throw out the baby with the bathwater! I’m a huge fan of the History Channel, and I actually get some great vacation ideas watching the Travel Channel. BBC is also the best for world news. However, I do sneak in an episode of “Entourage” whenever I can tho ;)
However, if it means risking getting addicted to A Shot of Tequila, it’s probably better to get rid of the whole thing.
I haven’t completely quit watching TV yet, mainly due to me working downstairs where my girlfriend is watching TV, it’s hard to not hear it and sometimes watch, but for the most part, I don’t care much for the TV. with over 100 DVD’s and 10 seasons of my favorite TV shows, if I was that interested in watching something, I have enough to look through.
Now, if I can only convince her to let me cut off the cable :) *would cut down on monthly bills too.*
My family loves movies, and my children are very knowledgable about movies. They know more about movies from the 30’s 40’s and 50’s than I know about almost anything! I just can’t sit and watch so much, because I am too hyper.
Has anyone read “Four Arguments For The Elmination of Television”? I read Jerry Mander’s book (I wonder if that name is a joke?) in college. You all might be interested in his documentation of TV induced sicknesses.
We, as a family of 4, noticed the same thing a few years ago, when we had cable TV. When the special sale ended, the bill was too high to keep up with, so diconnection happened. Wow! We found the life we lost! We startd playing games, going to the park, etc. We now use the tv for movie watching. Vast collection of movies, only buy something we know we want to watch over and over i.e. Bringing up Baby, Sahara. Once you’ve seen it 1 or 2 times it is easy to have a movie in for audio enjoyment while working on a project, while cleaning the house, etc. Like listening to a book on tape.
Great article Tina. I enjoy television, particularly a couple of sitcoms, educational scientific programs and occasional movies. I use it as “chill time.” The only exception is the most recent political debates to gain an better understanding of each candidate while they are on the “hot seat.”
I just posted an article on my site regarding the power of influencers and how we are a product of our associations. Television is a powerful influencer as many people watch entirely too much and may even confuse fact with fiction at times.
The dangers of TV are brain drain and re-programming. We become easy targets for advertisers and those who wish to exert their influence on us. Unless we are watching instructional programs, we are seldom learning anything while in front of it. In reality, it likely dulls our senses and imagination.
Excellent and practical article.
It would be great motivator to move away to ask someone to tune to the channel which we hate to watch. That is a good way to get over it.
Of course, the quality of program, content too bad, the better to get away.
Karthik.
Great tips!
The writer’s strike has helped keep me away from the TV a bit, but when you live by yourself, it’s almost like having company.
I’ve considered Tivo, but think I might end up watching more, not less TV.
I used to work on my blog in front of my TV and then made a vow to set up a great home office. I get so much more done now!
This is great advice. I always feel better when I’m watching little or no TV. If I really care about a programme and get some kind of genuine benefit from it (David Attenborough’s documentaries are usually inspiring and beautiful, whilst Friends always comforts me and makes me laugh), I’ll invest in DVDs, so that I can enjoy the programme without having to sit through any adverts.
I think sometimes people hurt themselves more on their diets than help themselves simply because they deprive themselves of healthy nutrition and nutrients. Then they cave in and eat the worst food for your body. The best and most healthy thing one can do is eat right and not eat crap. Nutritional shakes are great because they include so much good stuff. Go to your drug store and see what you can find. I get mine from http://www.herbalbuddy.com made by Herbalife because they taste great and have great ingredients to help keep us healthy.
I stopped subscribing to any TV service (including use of an antenna) three years ago and I do not miss it one bit. I have a nice plasma TV, but only use it for DVDs. This way, I can control what I watch, and use the TV as an occasional form of entertainment, and not a drug to numb me from actually thinking about things that matter or getting meaningful things done.