Dream to Reality: How I Quit My Day Job

Ever since I learned about the concept of financial independence five years ago, the seed of a dream had been planted. My dream: Having the freedom to deliberately choose how I spend every day – to have complete freedom of time.
As of last week, my dream became a reality.
I left my job at Amazon to start this new life chapter. I have three goals:
- To complete a triathlon
- To learn French
- To live everyday fully, as if my last
My answer to the question “What do you do?” will now be “I spend fulltime pursuing my passions.”
Personal Story
I had a wonderful job at a phenomenal company. I had flexibility, an understanding boss, and a high paying salary. I loved my job. But after 6 years of expending myself on the job, trying out various professional roles, I felt that I’d grown beyond the fixed positions available at the company.
I’m not going lie, having a lot of money is nice. Money can buy you things, nice things. However, the cliché is true – money cannot buy you happiness, and having it doesn’t mean that you are a successful person. After several years, I realized that the more money I made, the less satisfied I became. Days started to blend into one another, time flew by, and I deeply longed for something with more meaning.
Upon realizing that I was trading my time for money, I started experimenting with various passive income sources. I’ve started and ended businesses, I’ve turned hobbies into professional pursuits, and I’ve tested out investment avenues.
In the end, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter what you’re doing. As long as you are doing something that expresses your passion, you will excel and you will gain satisfaction. I’ve also learned that starting something from nothing and watching it grow is deeply rewarding.
Through my quest to finding my passion, I discovered blogging as a platform where I can share ideas and lessons learned that are closest to my heart, as a way to serve others. For the first time in my life, I feel that I am living my life purpose.
Words cannot express the joy I feel while writing for Think Simple Now, and the numerous times when feedback from readers has brought me to tears. This just feels right.
I wanted to take this time to say Thank You for being part of this with me, and for helping me realize my dream while stumbling upon my passion.
What Now? Q&A
Q: Now that you’re a pro-blogger, will you be working on your blog fulltime?
A: I don’t view myself as a professional blogger, since in my mind, I love this so much that I would pay money to experience it. Having said that, my main focus will be to follow my heart and do what feels right. There are many things I plan on doing, blogging is just one of them.
The following are a list of things I plan to do and incorporate into my life:
- Morning Routine – Establishing a healthy morning routine can be a powerful way to start your day. Mine will include: rising early, drinking plenty of water, exercising, meditation, & reading something inspirational.
- Reading – I love to read, but never found that I had enough time to do so. Now’s my chance to ramp through books I’ve always wanted to read. I have a large reading list with new books and old books I plan to re-read. My plan here is to read at least 2-4 books a month. I tend to crack open several books at the same time, so we’ll see how I do. I will be sharing what I’m reading with you all. Check out the section “What I’m Reading Now” along the side bar. I will be updating it as I progress.
- Yoga – Learning yoga.
- Meditation – Establish a regular daily meditation routine. My plan is to meditate twice a day, between 10-45 minutes each session.
- Exercise – I can count the number of times I’ve exercised in the last year on one hand. True story. It’s an area of my life that needs improving for the sake of my long term wellbeing. I randomly picked triathlon as a goal, since it will be a tremendous challenge, and poses as a goal to whip myself into shape.
- Public Speaking -I feel a draw towards motivational speaking and life coaching. While I’m not set on becoming a coach or a public speaker, I would like to explore in that direction. I will be joining a local Toastmasters group, and train myself in becoming a more engaging speaker and effective leader.
- Travel – My love for traveling comes from a desire to experience cultures that are vastly diverse from my own. Some places on my list are: Mongolia, Arabic China, Bali (Indonesia), Peru and South America, Ethiopia and other African countries. I would also like to live in Paris for several months.
- Writing – I will continue to share life lessons I’ve gained, and write about issues that we all experience as humans. My central theme will remain the same: Personal Happiness, Fulfillment, Clarity and Wellbeing.
- Personal Blog – Think Simple Now posts have always been in the format of in-depth articles on personal development. As such, I don’t consider it a blog, but rather a free web publication on personal wellbeing. I’ve been toying with the idea of starting a more personal blog called Simply Tina, where I’ll be posting much more liberally and casually. The topics will consist of a larger range of subjects: updates of my progress in this new lifestyle, traveling, business lessons, blogging, passive income, the 4 hour workweek lifestyle, startups, empowering mindsets, and useful resources.(Coming Soon. Subscribe today.)
Q: Holy crap, you quit your job? Tell me more. How are you paying for your expenses?
A: Two years ago, I had set a clear date for when I’d be leaving my job to pursue my passions fulltime. At that time, I only had a small amount of passive income from investments that paid for small bills. So my plan was to save enough money so that I could quit my job to freely pursue my passions fulltime for two years.
I believed (and still believe) that when we are doing that which we are completely passionate about, money will come. The plan was to explore my passions freely, living on my savings. I was confident that before the end of year two, I would be generating income doing what I love, without needing to get a job.
This transition was a difficult one, and was really, really scary initially knowing that I would lose my safety blanket: stable job, regular income, and benefits. But once I got over that initial scare, I realized that I was trapped by social conditioning and social pressure that I needed to get a job. The fear eventually passed with time when I focused on what I wanted: to be location independent and have complete control of my time.
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Steps for How I Did It
I’ve learned many lessons along the way prior to leaving my job. Here are some major points and steps that have contributed towards where I am today. I hope they can be helpful to you.
Photo by Mike BG
1. Clear Vision of Result
Many of us don’t get the results we want, because we don’t know what it is we actually want. Not knowing what we want is like jumping on a random train, blind-folded. It might take us to a city we’ll enjoy, but it might not. It is completely random and we have no control over where the train goes.
Alternatively, many of us talk about wanting to be rich. But we don’t know what “rich” means, or understand why we want it, or map out a plan towards obtaining it. This pattern is equivalent to a person in London wanting to be in New York, but hops on a random train in Europe, blind-folded. The ‘wanting’ alone will not get us there.
To get what we want, we need to first have a clear vision of what that thing is. The vision needs to be defined using measurable attributes, along with dates for when you will get there. Once you have a clear measurable goal for what you want and when you want it, you can start to work backwards and map out a plan. As the saying goes, “What gets measured, gets managed.”
In our analogy, say we are living in London but want to be in New York by December 15th, 2008. We have 4 months to get a travel visa, buy a flight ticket to NYC, look for an apartment or hotel in NYC, take time off work, pack our bags, and ask friends to take us to the airport. Before the end of next week, our plan is to have researched flights and have one purchased.
2. Understanding Why
Let’s say that you too wanted to quit your job and have complete freedom of time, what will you do with the extra time? If you don’t know, you’ll be better off staying at your job, since you’ll likely be bored and will start looking for a job soon. Make sure you understand the drive behind the vision.
List out all the reasons why you want to fulfill your vision. How will achieving that contribute towards your life? How can you use that new found freedom to help others?
3. Write It Down and Date It
I prefer to write down my goals along with a date for when it will happen. Writing it down forces you to clearly articulate the thing you want. Writing down your goals also helps by clearing them out of your mind and onto paper.
It feels just that much more real and doable once it’s in ink and down on paper.
4. Plan
If the steps toward achieving your goals aren’t clear, start listing out ideas for potential roads that can take you there.
Treat each potential road as a separate project, and work on one project at a time. Pick the project that feels the best for you and your interests.
With each project, list out the major steps you need to achieve in order to reach your goal. These steps are large milestones that are measurable. Make sure you set a target date for when each step will be completed.
For each step, break it down further into actionable tasks that can be completed in a few hours. Set a target date for each task. Adjust the target date for completing the step, if necessary.
5. Take Action
Once you set a goal, wrote it down, and planned it out, take one action immediately. Regardless of how small that action is, you are one step closer to your goal, and in doing so, it will start the momentum you need to follow through.
Let’s say that your goal is to run a website offering information on gardening that makes you $200 a month in advertising revenue. The first small step you can take immediate action on is to brainstorm for a domain name, or call a friend who knows about running websites to give you advice, or outlining content ideas, or researching demand by checking out existing gardening websites.
Make a commitment to yourself to take action every week, following the action items from your plan.
6. Adjust
Don’t be afraid of failure, if something isn’t working, so what! Just keep adjusting until something does work. Be bold and courageous, try different things. What’s the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work out, you’ve eliminated another way that something does not work and you now have a higher chance at finding something that does work. Plus you’ve learned a ton along the way.
7. Emergency Fund
If you’re thinking about quitting your job at some point in the future, make sure that you are building an emergency fund now. Heck, you should be doing that anyway even if you’re planning to stay at your job.
If your goal is to quit your job to work on your own thing, make sure you map out exactly what your monthly costs are. This way you’ll know how much money you’ll need monthly. This also helps when building your emergency fund – how much savings you’ll need and how many month you’ll have before burning out your reserves.
8. Mentors & Models
You can jump into a new field and eventually reach your goals by trial-and-error, or by modeling after a person who is already achieving the kinds of results you want. This person is a mentor. Modeling means to do things that your mentor is doing, and taking the steps that he or she took. Most often than not, you’ll get further following a working formula that’s already proven to work for your mentor.
A mentor could be someone who you interact with in a mentor-mentee relationship, someone you don’t know or someone you casually interact with. Remember, having a mentor does not mean you need a one-on-one formal relationship with them, in fact, many potential mentors are busy people, so don’t waste too much of their time.
Be smart when contacting them. Ask clear, short, conscious questions that are quick to answer, and don’t ask too many questions. There’s nothing that will turn off a potential mentor more than sending them an essay of an email. If you’re a blogger, don’t send them emails asking what they thought of your latest post. Be considerate and respective of their time. Become an excellent observer, and observe what works and what doesn’t.
Parting Words
My purpose for this article isn’t to advocate that you should quit your job. This article was written for anyone with a dream that may have somehow pushed it behind the back-curtains on the stage of life. My message here is that achieving your dream is possible if you want it bad enough and are willing to take action for it.
Regardless of what our dreams are or what our current life story consists of, we have the choice to live deliberately, consciously and purposefully.
Keep learning, for it will give you personal growth. Keep serving others, for it will give you compassion and a sense of connectedness with others. Together, growth and contribution hold the keys to lasting happiness and riches far beyond what money can buy.
Find your passion, and then look for ways to use your passion to provide massive value for others. Try different things until you find your passion. When you find it, you will know, for you will feel it in your heart. It’ll be like breathing. Never give up.
“Forget about the fast lane. If you want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success will come to you.”
~ Oprah
What is it that you want? What first step can you take? When will you take it? Share your dreams, goals, or thoughts with us in the comment section. See you there.
Tina,
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I’d be interested to hear about the doubts. Was there a point in time when you’re blogging career wasn’t quite where you wanted it to be? Did you ever wonder if the whole thing was going to work out?
Then, how did you push past that, mentally?
Hi Resveratrol Guy,
I didn’t have any doubts during this time, which was probably why success happened so quickly. I knew in my heart that I could do it, and I was completely focused on delivering the best content I could produce. I’ve since tried to start other businesses, and they are not as successful from the sole reason of having doubts, and conflicting feelings about the project.
I plan to document my mental process in detail in an ebook soon. If you like, I could shoot you an email when it’s ready.
But the short answer is, there were no conflicting thoughts in my mind with what I was doing. I was focused. And I focused on delivering value and knew with 100% confidence that I could make a living doing it. And then it happened (in about 3 months).
Tina
wow…that is really great. I am very happy for you that you found your passion. If only the rest of us could do the same….i’m still working on that….thanks for the inspiration
I am posting to my FB page as this is exactly what needs to be heard right now. Thanks and I am a new subscriber!!
Thanks for sharing your story.
I have done something very similar with reaching out for independent success through studying the lives of successful people. I love it.
For a little motivation, heres something I memorized:
“Success comes to those who try and keep on trying with a positive mental attitude”.
Hats off to you for pursuing your passions. To your greatest success!
Great post! – I’ve been thinking a lot recently about why more people don’t quit their job and strike out on their own. Check out this article for 10 more reasons why now is the best time ever to quit your job – http://rainydaywonder.wordpress.com/2010/10/20/10-reasons-why-now-is-the-best-time-ever-to-quit-your-job/
Dear Tina Su,
If I understood You correctly, You
claimed that one should just do, what
one pleases, and then the monetary part
gets solved by itself.
I believe that if You were explaining it
in more detail by using a concrete example
for illustrations, people, including me,
would understand Your assertion better.
For example, I believe that it would be
helpful, if You could explain the following
case:
A person likes to develop math-biased software,
but is living in a rural setting, where there are
only local farmers, who do not use computers at all
or who use computers at most for banking, dating,
e-mail, web surfing, video watching. Financially
it’s not an option to travel.
How do You see it possible to earn in such an
environment by developing math-biased software?
Yours sincerely, (and curiously)
Martin.Vahi@eesti.ee
Dear Martin,
Ironicically, I used to develop math-based software. :)
The beauty of software programming is that you can sell your services to people who do not live in the same local as yourself. Thanks to the Internet. I know friends who actually work in very niche engineering and software fields while living in a rural area with a tiny economy, and they do very well financially, and are extremely happy to be close to nature.
My point with this article isn’t to argue to say “I am right. Listen to me.”. I am simply sharing my story, and what type of mental state (and believes) I had at the time. No solution is cookie-cut for everyone. You take what you can get from the article, hopefully some pieces that can help you. If not, no hard feelings.
I think mindset has everything to do with success, weather it is in personal fulfillment or financial income.
Warmly,
Tina
Thank You for Your answer. :-)
I have a copy of the problogger book and just like this article – both are very inspiring and full of information for hungry people. I think the key is little-by-little.
I enjoyed your article. It was really inspiring but it left some unanswered questions. How do you support youself? How do you pay for your bills? If you don’t have a job where is your money coming from?
Thank you,
Pablo Zetina
Hi Pablo,
I support my self through running this website via advertising.
Tina
Dear Tina,
I came across your blog and found it very inspiring. I want to congratulate you for being clear minded in your life and being successful in working out things wonderfully.
I have a day job in which I am not happy and I don’t feel excited about it and it makes me feel De-motivated at the end of the day.
I want to do something which will make me happy and satisfied at the end of the day.
But I don’t know where should I start and what steps should I take to find out what it is which will make me happy and can also be transformed into a career?
I keep reading various blogs and books and try to find ways which can help me find a way!
Tina, can you suggest me something as you have been through this process successfully. If you provide me with some points on this, it would be great!
Thanks and wishing you a great life ahead!
Regards,
Bhagyashri
Congratulation to you Tina. Finally your dream came to realty. Its not easy to just quit your day job. It must be very hard decision.
It was hard at first, but once the seed of the idea was planted, with time, the fear subsided.
Thank you! :)
Each day that I live brings new lessons to me. I’ve quit my job, have 2 days left to complete my month’s notice. have no idea what I will be doing in 2011, but one thing is for sure, I will be successful and happy. I will make salary multiplied by a huge number…
Of most importance to quiting my job was my family support, when your family supports you in your endeavours, you become a happier person instantly and have more gratitude.
Thanks for you advice and message
Regards,
Katlego
Hi Tina,
Thanks for the inspiring story. I see that this post is still impacting people’s lives more than 2 years after it was posted.
I myself just quit my day job 3 months ago. I’m not yet a professional blogger but rather a real estate investor. I do look forward to learning from you and reading your posts.
More power to your blog.
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Wow Tina – thanks for sharing. I love how practical and common sense this advice is – you have to have a dream AND a plan on how to get there.
I am really passionate about this topic as well – nobody should have a job they hate.
I started off by paying off debt and reducing my expenses to the point where I could work part-time and then worked from there.
Working for myself now is so wonderful!
Thanks and good luck to you,
Denise
Hi Tina,
I just found your blog, and this post really spoke to me. After a long period of planning, I also recently quit my day job to pursue a more free lifestyle. I’m now following my passion to help others be the best that they can be. It’s a bit of a scary leap, but it’s also exhilarating.
Thank you for sharing your story here. It’s exciting to see so many people choosing to carve their own paths in this way, and it’s great to find fellow “travelers” such as yourself on this road.
Cheers!
Monica Crowe
Hi Tina! I have to say that I keep coming back to read this post fir courage. I work in a job that a lot of people seem to think is a “dream job” – I am a flight attendant – but this job has become a nightmare for me. The company I work for used to be an employee-centred, fun place to work, but after expanding rapidly it has become mired in internal politics and has become focussed on money and milking their employees dry without giving back. There’s a lot of, for lack of a better term, corporate brainwashing at my com
My dream has always been to be a writer, and I have been trying to psyche myself up to quit my job and pursue it full time.
I’ll try posting again…writing on an iPod has the hazard of accidentally pressing the wrong button and posting in the middle of writing a sentence. :)
Hi Tina! I have to say that I have referenced this article regularly for the past 5 months or so, as well as many others that you have written. I’m on the verge of doing what you have done, and I read your articles for courage. I have far more hecklers than cheerleaders in my life, so thank you for being so positive and encouraging.
I have what many consider to be a “dream job” – I am a flight attendant. The pay is good and the schedule is outstanding – but I’ve come to realize it’s not for me. Between being yelled at by passengers, working exhausting schedules, working for free and being pressured to do more for the same pay by my company, I’m physically, emotionally and mentally done with it. The company was once a wonderful place to work, but it’s grown too fast and has gone from being an employee-centred company that was fun to work for into a corporate giant whose main objective is to rake in the maximum amount of revenue at any cost. I feel mentally exhausted just thinking about it. People tell me I “have it good,” that I am “insane” for thinking about leaving a job where I work less than half the month and I that should just “work my guts out for five years and retire,” but as it stands, I’ve been giving away shifts and working as little as possible. I feel like my work environment has become an emotional toxin in my life, and I want to expose myself to it as little as possible.
What makes it harder to leave is that there is, for lack of a better term, a lot of corporate “brainwashing” at my company. Whenever I’ve mentioned to other flight attendants that I want to quit and become a writer full time, people are almost eager to tell discouraging horror stories about people who left the company and how terrible their lives turned out. That scares the hell out of me, but what scares me MORE is the thought of still being there in ten year’s time – or even one year’s time, really. Whenever I am at work, or am about to go to work, or even just THINKING about work, I feel stressed out and exploited and become bitter. As time goes on, I’m becoming an increasingly angry individual (you should see my recent blog posts… LOL!), and that’s not who I am. I am normally a happy person who loves people, but working at this job has turned me into a bitter, angry recluse.
My dream is to be a full time writer and to help people get off the corporate hamster wheel and do something that makes their hearts sing. I have no idea how to become a professional blogger (I already have a blog, but it doesn’t pay), but I intend to learn. Do you have any recommended places to start?
I’m at a point where I don’t care what people think anymore. For me, writing is as essential to my life as breathing, and it is, in my heart, what I feel I am destined to do. I’m tired of trying to please my friends and family by doing what society says is the “right” or “responsible” thing to do. This is MY life, and we only do this once, and I don’t want to spend it as a bitter and miserable person.
I have some money saved up – nowhere near as much as you, but the way I see it, there’s nothing more motivating than a shrinking bank account. Pursuing one’s dream is hard work, and a lot of us spend more time and effort avoiding our dreams than pursuing them, and in the end, it’s less effort to actually roll your sleeves up and do what needs to be done. I am tired of representing someone else’s “brand.” I would rather make money being me, and I believe in my heart I will be successful.
It’s true, by the way, when you said opportunities and money would come. By chance I met a man who runs his own publishing business just by having a random conversation with him.
Thank you Tina, for this article and so many others you have written. It’s nice to read something encouraging. The world needs more cheerleaders like you – there are far too many hecklers trying to discourage and demoralize us on a daily basis.
-Simone
Hi everyone,
Your posts are encouraging in a world that’s full of “hecklers” as Simone puts it. I quit my job in December (and got a final pay of R0.00 after working a full month with many leave days that were not taken) and am still alive and much much much happier, I doing things that I love. I blog and joined an estate agency to do something I love i.e. see all sorts of houses. I am loving it, but as can be expected when working for someone, there comes a time when they have to spoil the fun by the things they say… such is life. Anyways, I dont get a salary, I get a commission only BUT I wake up whenever I want to, sleep whenever I want to, see all sorts of people, leave work whenever I want to, see houses, and am ok with being broke and happy.
This morning I went to view a house that this other old woman intends to sell because she has gone sick after many (15 -20) years of making millions for a company (and reaching management positions) that gave her a 15 year long-service certificate… and a few trophies. The company couldn’t give a care in the world about how she was or what she was going through. It was plain sad.
I once read somewhere (probably one of Tina’s posts) “Leap, and the net will appear”… That’s very true and works for me.
To happiness
I try to use Google translate for this article. Thanks for sharing your article. This is a great article !!
I have read and re-read this article so many times.
I have been planning and saving for a year now to quit my day job as an emergency 911 dispatcher to pursue my passion for music. I have been drumming 14 years and I am finally going to move to the big city to make this happen.
I’ve graduated college already but I am part of the younger culture that works smarter not harder. I don’t want to become old and tired and worn out long before I have had a chance to travel and do what I love.
I will not give up and nor should any of you! Good luck, although luck has nothing to do with it =)
I love this post–and this site. I happened upon it looking for somewhere to go for what I’m calling an ‘un-working’ trip–a trip I’ll be taking during the first few weeks of my year off from work. I’m hoping it will turn into a ‘lifetime off from work’, as I’m also pursuing things I love to do and hoping something will surface. I’ll take any suggestions of un-work trip locations!
This post is so inspiring to me, Tina. As a 23 year-old college grad and recently unemployed, I’m finding a lot of pressure to get back into the “real world.” You know – get a 9-5 (even if it means selling my soul in a sales position), work for the weekends, be realistic.
I don’t see what’s so realistic about working a job I hate. Thanks to blogs like yours, I’m able to see this time off as a major blessing. I’m following my passion, started a blog, and joined a local Toastmasters group (which I see you’ve done too!)…Thanks for the inspiration!