How to Be Naked like a Baby
… And Just as Happy
Why is it that once we become adults, we become so serious all the time (generally speaking). We get so caught up in the hectic race of everyday life that we forget that we are here to experience joy, to experience Life. We forget to smile and enjoy the beauty of the present moment. I notice that I fall into the many demands of my life story. Recently, I have gotten so busy that a week can pass without realizing. I don’t get the chance to slow down once to reflect and to be present. I seem to fall into the pattern of constantly living in the future, running after that next goal or achieving that next task on my never-ending list of Todos. Let’s take this moment to slow down, just for a few minutes.
Small children and family pets (dogs, cats) can serve as great ‘Zen’ teachers. Have you observed them before? Try it. It is so beautiful to watch the innocence of a small child, or a dog. They are so present in the moment, stress-free, open to their feelings and are a bundle of joy. I tell people that my dog Tommy is “made of love” because from observing him, he really is! A fluff of positive energy, which serves as a constant reminder to be positive in any situation and to not take things so seriously. Live life, enjoy the moment.
I also believe that child-like innocence and creativity have a direct connection. I work with lots of artists and creative people, and I have found that child-like innocence are very common among all of them. The purity, the openness, and the awareness of the present moment are clearly shown through interacting with each of them.
We can guide ourselves back to the inner child in us. You ready? Let’s first start with some common traits and characteristics of our cute little ‘Zen masters’:
- Trusting – Children aren’t cynical and they don’t expect disappointment. They have an innate trust of the world and other people.
- Delight – Children are full of wonder and delight. They are amazed at and enjoy the little things. Seeing an airplane in the sky is an incredible thing from a child’s eye.
- Present in the moment – There is no past or future for a child. They are fully engaged in the present moment.
- Forgiveness – It’s possible to hurt a child’s feelings, but they won’t stay mad at you for very long. In fact, they may not get angry at all. Children have a refreshing ability to let go of the past.
- Uninhibited – Children have not yet learned to care what other people think of them, so they are free to do and say the things they truly want to.
- Strong emotion – Have you ever seen a child throw a tantrum? The truly amazing thing about children is that they feel and express emotions ‘fully’ – happiness, anger, fear – and then they move on. They feel and express the emotions fully and completely, but they bounce back quickly. Nothing is suppressed or held back.Children experience things to the fullest, but somewhere along the way toward adulthood, something changes. Through social conditioning, we start to act like other adults, how society expects us to act. We begin to care about what others think. We aren’t always present in the moment. We hold grudges. We stress about our daily problems and tasks, and we don’t get excited about seeing an airplane in the sky anymore.
Each of us will always have that child-like innocence somewhere within us, the part of us who is present, happy, positive, playful, joyous and compassionate. The following are six simple practices to help us free and get in touch with the inner child within us:
1. Being with the moment. Practice being present in the moment, by giving your full attention to each task you perform. I’ve come to realize that it really doesn’t matter what I’m doing, as long as I bring present in the act, I will find joy in it. Regardless of what you are doing, do it fully! Be aware of little details, relax your mind, and bring awareness into everything you are doing.
2. Explore. Practice seeing things from new perspectives. Imagine you are seeing and doing everything for the first time – everything will seem so much more amazing when you view life in that light. What do you notice in this moment doing this task that you haven’t noticed before? Look for small details to appreciate.
3. Laugh & Smile. Nothing can bring out the child in you faster than a good belly laugh. Rent a comedy, tell a joke, act silly with a friend, do a ‘happy dance’. Find something that’ll make you laugh.
4. Play. What did you enjoy doing as a child? Did you jump rope? Ride your bike? Climb a tree? Watch a trail of ants? What’s stopping you from enjoying those simple things now? Give your childhood pastimes a try. You might really enjoy them and brings back fond memories. If not, do something you consider playful as an adult. Pull a prank on a close friend, build a spaceship with Lego, draw with colored crayons, dance like no one’s watching, go to an amusement park, turn up the music real loud and start singing, slide around the house in your underwear. :)
5. Run. If there’s one thing that children are good at, it’s running around (or skipping). They seem to have a never-ending supply of energy. Find a park and try for yourself. (And I’m not talking about exercising. I’m talking about running around for no purpose at all except to have fun.) It’s energizing, right? Combine running with laughing and hilarity will ensue! I periodically do this with my dog. We do this in the apartment too. It’s fun!
6. Practice acceptance and forgiveness. Children have the right idea with this. Not only will practicing forgiveness benefit those around you, it will greatly increase your own peace and inner harmony. Feel your feelings, but then let them go. Let yourself forgive others.
So, you’re probably still wondering about the title, huh? Well, I don’t know what you’re thinking, but I don’t mean butt naked … I’m referring to naked metaphorically, for dropping your inhibitions. :)
What do you think? What make you feel in touch with the inner child in you? Share your thoughts with us in the comments. We’d love to hear from you.
Being with/in the moment can be the most challenging. Especially individuals who are leaders and visionaries. Being two steps ahead of everyone else is always applauded and admired. However, many “special moments” are missed when your always looking to far in advance.
Thanks for reminding me where I need to be! Great post!
Thanks for a great post. One technique that I use to allow myself to step back like that is to remember the scale of things. The world isn’t going to grind to a halt if I stop cranking. Someone has already said it better than me:
1: Don’t sweat the small stuff.
2: It’s all small stuff
I love the title of this article! My two-year-old daughter teaches me a lot about joy every night. After her bath, she likes to run gleefully through the house, butt-naked, daring us to catch her. It’s the cutest thing …
Blessings,
Andrea
My motto is to realise that if you are thinking negatively, the world still turns and you will still get old, so start thinking positively!
@David Finch: It is most challenging, this is why we must be aware as much as we can to do so. I too fall into the situation of living in the future a bit too much. It helps for the work we are doing, but we miss the opportunity to enjoy (In-Joy) the moment. Thanks for the comment!
@John: Hmm.. I love this little technique. I’m gonna write it on a yellow sticky and tape it by my monitor. :) It’s a good reminder. :) Thank you for sharing.
@Andrea: hahaha.. that is such a cute image. A little baby running around butt-naked after her bath. :) Thank you for making me smile. It’s a good reminder that deep down inside, we have the innocence of that baby.
@Derrick: That is a great motto to live by and a great saying. Thank you! It’s so true and funny when we think about. But when we are in the moment of heat, it’s hard to think rationally. :)
YES! This was such a great post – and perfect timing in my life to get out of this adultish grind and back to the beauty of joy in the everyday little things.
p.s. I love your blog!
If we ever want to recapture the wonder and excitement in life, all we have to do is look at our children!
Love the article, Tina.
Thanks Tina for reminding us about the innocence of the child in all of us. Is it play time yet?
You keep up what you are doing because it does have meaning for all you touch.
Peace and Gratitude,
Joseph
http://www.ExploreLifeBlog.com
Wow, childhood, those were the best days … the brief nights and the long stories if you know what I mean …
@Amber Cox: Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate the encouraging words. :) It’s a good reminder for myself as well. Keep smiling!
@ZHereford: Indeed.. or look at our pets if we don’t have children. :)
@Joseph Bernard: Thank you for the note and kind words. :)
It is always play time if we decide it is. I like to be reminded that we are in complete control of our lives and how we live it. Not controlling the external, but rather, controlling our thoughts and minds.
@Raj: hehe.. yeah, I know what you mean. Thanks for the comment.
Ohw, I haven’t slow down for quite a while. Perhaps I shall make today as a slow-down-day. :)
I will.
Thanks for the reminder, Tina. :)
Reminds me of the movie “The Peaceful Warrior” how his mentor taught him to be present in the moment. And that the destination (i.e. wherever he was going) wasn’t that important, but that you found happiness in the journey, each and every moment of life. Great post.
~Chris Jones
I always do silly and dramatic stuff like the “happy dance” to make people laugh. Yes, laughter is the best medicine really. It’s keeping my dad alive now.
I have a recent post on life which is related to this entry. It also advocates slowing down and enjoying life. Have a look when you are free =)
http://richgrad.com/life-and-music-by-alan-watts/
I often think about the difference between how a child — before he or she knows any language — and an adult, sees the world and learns. The major difference is that the infant cannot think in words. Their awareness is pristine.
Try this for fun:
Go for a walk by yourself, and make a commitment that you won’t think in words at all. Of course you will have worded thoughts entering your mind, but just let them go, then get back to how an infant sees the world. Just be aware of your surroundings; the sights, sounds, and smells. Take it all in without labeling any of it.
Now it may sound impossible but it develops quickly with practice. You will be amazed at how this simple exercise will change how you feel. Such a simple thing really, but it can change your life.
Cheers,
John
http://www.JohnRocheleau.com
Agree on the child having a greater ability to express creativity, but need the adult in us to do what it takes to see the dream through.
Martin
toolkitforsuccess
Most of ppl spend time in movies, games, etc for entertainment. This reminds me kids are 24/7 Entertainer, Fresh, Energytic & All in all.
Anyway thanks for reminding. Very interesting!!!
Its lovely and will try and follow it through. My kids teach me all this lessons everyday I am with them and I seem not learn may be its
but “my socially conditioned” self will say other will think I have gone crazy and throw me into the psych ward.
All the same I will try and very hard at that
One more great post from Tina which reminds me those happy days in childhood. Lower your expectations, and become more happy. This is my simple formula. What does a child expect ? Simply nothing. Everything is quite interesting for a child…
@Raymond: haha.. thanks for the laugh. Slow-down-day sounds great!
@Chris Jones: I loved “The Peaceful Warrior”.. and the book “Ways of the Peaceful Warrior” .. have you read it before? It’s one of the books that really shifted my way of viewing the world. You are right, it really doesn’t matter what we are doing, what’s most important is enjoying the journey. If we are present in anything we are doing now, we will experience joy and bliss. I love it! :)
@John Rocheleau: Love that idea! It’s like meditation while you are walking. To become the observer without labeling everything, and to fully enjoy every moment. Thanks for sharing. :) I’ll try that next time.
@Martin Saenz: Absolutely, indeed, the adult in us needs to do what it takes to see the dream through. But being in such a pure and relaxed state, the adult can have greater access to creative energy and vision for his/her dream. :)
@Prabhakaran.G: Thank you for the comment!
@Raymond: Keep trying, don’t give up. Throw away the thoughts of what others are thinking. You don’t need them. You are here to live life for you! Not for any body else. What other people think of us are only their opinions and will only affect us if we allow it. The joys we feel inside cannot be taken away from us.
Thanks for the refreshing viewpoint. The thought in my mind while reading the first paragraph was “Social programming”.
A Wonderful reminder of what we know and often forget!
All there really is, is Now! Our imagination takes us to our future which is great if we focus on the positive! Our fears and our doubts are our traitors, Shakespeare. Purposefully choosing a positive emotional state is the most intelligent thing we humans (spirits in a body) can do, we feel good now and attract more with that very energy, which becomes our self fullfilling prophecy, which is how we make the world a better place! All you need is Love, be that Font in your life!
Smile and laugh and dance and sing, feel good!
Thank you for an inspiring article! Happy Thanksgiving!
Really Nice article… We do all these things in our daily life… And ya I try to retain all my good old memories.. It makes me feel good and feel like a child..
Those stupid things makes everyone laugh and my moto of life is to to be happy ever I try it everytime.. Laugh without any reason and make others laugh.. :)
Thnx for these beautiful and golden lines..
let be Peace and Love every were..
Shankie ;0)