Dream to Reality: How I Quit My Day Job
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking, and don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. ~Steve JobsEver since I learned about the concept of financial independence five years ago, the seed of a dream had been planted. My dream: Having the freedom to deliberately choose how I spend every day – to have complete freedom of time.
As of last week, my dream became a reality.
I left my job at Amazon to start this new life chapter. I have three goals:
- To complete a triathlon
- To learn French
- To live everyday fully, as if my last
My answer to the question “What do you do?” will now be “I spend fulltime pursuing my passions.”
Personal Story
I had a wonderful job at a phenomenal company. I had flexibility, an understanding boss, and a high paying salary. I loved my job. But after 6 years of expending myself on the job, trying out various professional roles, I felt that I’d grown beyond the fixed positions available at the company.
I’m not going lie, having a lot of money is nice. Money can buy you things, nice things. However, the cliché is true – money cannot buy you happiness, and having it doesn’t mean that you are a successful person. After several years, I realized that the more money I made, the less satisfied I became. Days started to blend into one another, time flew by, and I deeply longed for something with more meaning.
Upon realizing that I was trading my time for money, I started experimenting with various passive income sources. I’ve started and ended businesses, I’ve turned hobbies into professional pursuits, and I’ve tested out investment avenues.
In the end, I’ve learned that it doesn’t matter what you’re doing. As long as you are doing something that expresses your passion, you will excel and you will gain satisfaction. I’ve also learned that starting something from nothing and watching it grow is deeply rewarding.
Through my quest to finding my passion, I discovered blogging as a platform where I can share ideas and lessons learned that are closest to my heart, as a way to serve others. For the first time in my life, I feel that I am living my life purpose.
Words cannot express the joy I feel while writing for Think Simple Now, and the numerous times when feedback from readers has brought me to tears. This just feels right.
I wanted to take this time to say Thank You for being part of this with me, and for helping me realize my dream while stumbling upon my passion.
What Now? Q&A
Q: Now that you’re a pro-blogger, will you be working on your blog fulltime?
A: I don’t view myself as a professional blogger, since in my mind, I love this so much that I would pay money to experience it. Having said that, my main focus will be to follow my heart and do what feels right. There are many things I plan on doing, blogging is just one of them.
The following are a list of things I plan to do and incorporate into my life:
- Morning Routine – Establishing a healthy morning routine can be a powerful way to start your day. Mine will include: rising early, drinking plenty of water, exercising, meditation, & reading something inspirational.
- Reading – I love to read, but never found that I had enough time to do so. Now’s my chance to ramp through books I’ve always wanted to read. I have a large reading list with new books and old books I plan to re-read. My plan here is to read at least 2-4 books a month. I tend to crack open several books at the same time, so we’ll see how I do. I will be sharing what I’m reading with you all. Check out the section “What I’m Reading Now” along the side bar. I will be updating it as I progress.
- Yoga – Learning yoga.
- Meditation – Establish a regular daily meditation routine. My plan is to meditate twice a day, between 10-45 minutes each session.
- Exercise – I can count the number of times I’ve exercised in the last year on one hand. True story. It’s an area of my life that needs improving for the sake of my long term wellbeing. I randomly picked triathlon as a goal, since it will be a tremendous challenge, and poses as a goal to whip myself into shape.
- Public Speaking -I feel a draw towards motivational speaking and life coaching. While I’m not set on becoming a coach or a public speaker, I would like to explore in that direction. I will be joining a local Toastmasters group, and train myself in becoming a more engaging speaker and effective leader.
- Travel – My love for traveling comes from a desire to experience cultures that are vastly diverse from my own. Some places on my list are: Mongolia, Arabic China, Bali (Indonesia), Peru and South America, Ethiopia and other African countries. I would also like to live in Paris for several months.
- Writing – I will continue to share life lessons I’ve gained, and write about issues that we all experience as humans. My central theme will remain the same: Personal Happiness, Fulfillment, Clarity and Wellbeing.
- Personal Blog – Think Simple Now posts have always been in the format of in-depth articles on personal development. As such, I don’t consider it a blog, but rather a free web publication on personal wellbeing. I’ve been toying with the idea of starting a more personal blog called Simply Tina, where I’ll be posting much more liberally and casually. The topics will consist of a larger range of subjects: updates of my progress in this new lifestyle, traveling, business lessons, blogging, passive income, the 4 hour workweek lifestyle, startups, empowering mindsets, and useful resources.(Coming Soon. Subscribe today.)
Q: Holy crap, you quit your job? Tell me more. How are you paying for your expenses?
A: Two years ago, I had set a clear date for when I’d be leaving my job to pursue my passions fulltime. At that time, I only had a small amount of passive income from investments that paid for small bills. So my plan was to save enough money so that I could quit my job to freely pursue my passions fulltime for two years.
I believed (and still believe) that when we are doing that which we are completely passionate about, money will come. The plan was to explore my passions freely, living on my savings. I was confident that before the end of year two, I would be generating income doing what I love, without needing to get a job.
This transition was a difficult one, and was really, really scary initially knowing that I would lose my safety blanket: stable job, regular income, and benefits. But once I got over that initial scare, I realized that I was trapped by social conditioning and social pressure that I needed to get a job. The fear eventually passed with time when I focused on what I wanted: to be location independent and have complete control of my time.
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Steps for How I Did It
I’ve learned many lessons along the way prior to leaving my job. Here are some major points and steps that have contributed towards where I am today. I hope they can be helpful to you.
Photo by Mike BG
1. Clear Vision of Result
Many of us don’t get the results we want, because we don’t know what it is we actually want. Not knowing what we want is like jumping on a random train, blind-folded. It might take us to a city we’ll enjoy, but it might not. It is completely random and we have no control over where the train goes.
Alternatively, many of us talk about wanting to be rich. But we don’t know what “rich” means, or understand why we want it, or map out a plan towards obtaining it. This pattern is equivalent to a person in London wanting to be in New York, but hops on a random train in Europe, blind-folded. The ‘wanting’ alone will not get us there.
To get what we want, we need to first have a clear vision of what that thing is. The vision needs to be defined using measurable attributes, along with dates for when you will get there. Once you have a clear measurable goal for what you want and when you want it, you can start to work backwards and map out a plan. As the saying goes, “What gets measured, gets managed.”
In our analogy, say we are living in London but want to be in New York by December 15th, 2008. We have 4 months to get a travel visa, buy a flight ticket to NYC, look for an apartment or hotel in NYC, take time off work, pack our bags, and ask friends to take us to the airport. Before the end of next week, our plan is to have researched flights and have one purchased.
2. Understanding Why
Let’s say that you too wanted to quit your job and have complete freedom of time, what will you do with the extra time? If you don’t know, you’ll be better off staying at your job, since you’ll likely be bored and will start looking for a job soon. Make sure you understand the drive behind the vision.
List out all the reasons why you want to fulfill your vision. How will achieving that contribute towards your life? How can you use that new found freedom to help others?
3. Write It Down and Date It
I prefer to write down my goals along with a date for when it will happen. Writing it down forces you to clearly articulate the thing you want. Writing down your goals also helps by clearing them out of your mind and onto paper.
It feels just that much more real and doable once it’s in ink and down on paper.
4. Plan
If the steps toward achieving your goals aren’t clear, start listing out ideas for potential roads that can take you there.
Treat each potential road as a separate project, and work on one project at a time. Pick the project that feels the best for you and your interests.
With each project, list out the major steps you need to achieve in order to reach your goal. These steps are large milestones that are measurable. Make sure you set a target date for when each step will be completed.
For each step, break it down further into actionable tasks that can be completed in a few hours. Set a target date for each task. Adjust the target date for completing the step, if necessary.
5. Take Action
Once you set a goal, wrote it down, and planned it out, take one action immediately. Regardless of how small that action is, you are one step closer to your goal, and in doing so, it will start the momentum you need to follow through.
Let’s say that your goal is to run a website offering information on gardening that makes you $200 a month in advertising revenue. The first small step you can take immediate action on is to brainstorm for a domain name, or call a friend who knows about running websites to give you advice, or outlining content ideas, or researching demand by checking out existing gardening websites.
Make a commitment to yourself to take action every week, following the action items from your plan.
6. Adjust
Don’t be afraid of failure, if something isn’t working, so what! Just keep adjusting until something does work. Be bold and courageous, try different things. What’s the worst that can happen? If it doesn’t work out, you’ve eliminated another way that something does not work and you now have a higher chance at finding something that does work. Plus you’ve learned a ton along the way.
7. Emergency Fund
If you’re thinking about quitting your job at some point in the future, make sure that you are building an emergency fund now. Heck, you should be doing that anyway even if you’re planning to stay at your job.
If your goal is to quit your job to work on your own thing, make sure you map out exactly what your monthly costs are. This way you’ll know how much money you’ll need monthly. This also helps when building your emergency fund – how much savings you’ll need and how many month you’ll have before burning out your reserves.
8. Mentors & Models
You can jump into a new field and eventually reach your goals by trial-and-error, or by modeling after a person who is already achieving the kinds of results you want. This person is a mentor. Modeling means to do things that your mentor is doing, and taking the steps that he or she took. Most often than not, you’ll get further following a working formula that’s already proven to work for your mentor.
A mentor could be someone who you interact with in a mentor-mentee relationship, someone you don’t know or someone you casually interact with. Remember, having a mentor does not mean you need a one-on-one formal relationship with them, in fact, many potential mentors are busy people, so don’t waste too much of their time.
Be smart when contacting them. Ask clear, short, conscious questions that are quick to answer, and don’t ask too many questions. There’s nothing that will turn off a potential mentor more than sending them an essay of an email. If you’re a blogger, don’t send them emails asking what they thought of your latest post. Be considerate and respective of their time. Become an excellent observer, and observe what works and what doesn’t.
Parting Words
My purpose for this article isn’t to advocate that you should quit your job. This article was written for anyone with a dream that may have somehow pushed it behind the back-curtains on the stage of life. My message here is that achieving your dream is possible if you want it bad enough and are willing to take action for it.
Regardless of what our dreams are or what our current life story consists of, we have the choice to live deliberately, consciously and purposefully.
Keep learning, for it will give you personal growth. Keep serving others, for it will give you compassion and a sense of connectedness with others. Together, growth and contribution hold the keys to lasting happiness and riches far beyond what money can buy.
Find your passion, and then look for ways to use your passion to provide massive value for others. Try different things until you find your passion. When you find it, you will know, for you will feel it in your heart. It’ll be like breathing. Never give up.
“Forget about the fast lane. If you want to fly, just harness your power to your passion. Honor your calling. Everybody has one. Trust your heart and success will come to you.”
~ Oprah
What is it that you want? What first step can you take? When will you take it? Share your dreams, goals, or thoughts with us in the comment section. See you there.
Tina, congratulations. An inspiring post, as always.
Wow! You have so many changes in your life at present Tina!
Welcome to the ranks of the self employed. Looks like you have really thought about this and have a clear plan. I have no doubts you will make it, and make it big!
Looking forward to hearing more on here soon.
Oh Yeah! I’m a very skeptical human being but when my eyes read your post it’s like one of the window in my concious mind opened eventhough I heared a lot similar post this but looking this is different, Chemistry? I think it’s just a human instinct to work less and enjoy alot.. ;o)
Regards,
tj
Congratulations Tina — you are really set for a great adventure.
The key to self-employment is saving money and then taking the leap. I’ve done it twice now and it’s like a game. Cut back expenses ahead of time and watch the bank balance grow. There will be a natural end-point triggered by professional or personal changes. Then its time to go.
Walking out of work that last day, looking at your colleagues pounding away, is one of the most satisfying feelings… Monday at 9am, I know what you will be doing. I do not know what I will be doing.
Po Bronson, author of What Should I Do With My Life, has a great passage in the book about careers. I’ll butcher it effectively: We are swinging from vines and so often we make sure we have the next vine in hand before letting go of the previous vine. We should all at some point let go of the vine we’re holding onto, fall to the forest floor and go climb a new tree.
The great thing about independent work is that you never know where you’re going to end up. There’s such a rush of getting mid-day massages, working from lakeside retreats and realizing that you control your destiny. Also realizing how much work there is out there for independents.
As I’m typing this, the rush comes back.
It’s not easy. The money is a bit less, there’s less security and it can be damn lonely at times. But on the flip side, when you find a vacation deal and wonder if you have enough time off… oh yeah, I do. ;)
Key is saving money. It’s a game. How little can you spend? Friends with jobs my have more stuff and go to fancy dinners all the time but just ask them to go on a bike ride at 11am on Wednesday morning and spend the afternoon in a park having a bit of wine. “I can’t.” Exactly.
Best of luck! You’re going to do great!
Congrats, Tina. Follow your dreams and passions, everything else will come. Good luck in your new adventure and greetings from Spain.
I salute you, what you have done takes, dare i say it, kahunas of steel!
my wife and i are at a stage in our lives where we are just sick and tired of being sick and tired. we’ve been looking at passive income for a while now but, alas i think we are still held back by fear and uncertainty, more a hit and hope attitude than a specific and certain goal ( although i think my two kids are reason enough). I will print this and read it every day!
Thank you for the inspiration. ( I’ve just developed a goal – i will meet you someday!)
Congratulation Tina. I will follow your step later. You will be one of my inspiration…
My goal for this year is to get income from online business (blog & online stores) equal to my full time job income and quit from 9-5 job starting 1st Jan 09. I am working on it now and positive that my effort will pay off and I achieve my aim…
Is it weird that I enjoyed the ‘Q & A’ section of this the most? Great post Tina, and I’m glad that you managed to quit your job.
I’m going to be in France at the start of next year so maybe we will cross paths ;)
Cheers,
Glen
I have no doubts that you will make it. We bring into our lives what we want the most. I can see that you will succeed and flourish in new ways that you never imagined. I’m working toward your goal. It’s scares me, but reading articles like yours really helps me see what I’m striving for.
Your question to now that you are a pro-blogger… is very similar to the direction that I want to go. I will be keeping a close watch and sending a prayer for your success every now and again.
If you need any help just let me know. I’ll be glad to help.
You are an amazingly talented photographer. Congratulations on pursuing your dreams. You’re a total inspiration. :)
I got lucky enough to have a confluence of events allow/force me to “quit my day job” and pursure my passion. I’d been creating art since I was 6, but didn’t have the self-confidence to try to make it income producing. Then it all fell into place and we were financially able to give it a year. At that time, my goal was to be able to pay for my health insurance with my art income. The bills were taken care of by my wife’s “day job” which was and still is something she truly likes doing. I ended up breaking even that first year, with paying for insurance.
It’s wonderful to be able to pursue my passion so wholeheartedly. But it’s even better to have the self-confidence and self-knowledge of what that passion is and that everybody should know about it.
My suggestion to you, Tina, is that somewhere along the way you allow people to pay you directly for your creativity. It feels good for people to be able to reward production. Passive income and ad income are all well and good, but creating something and selling it makes you feel valuable. It’s a good feeling. Heck, I’ve had people offer more than I charge. Maybe that’d be a book, or something on the side, or guest posting… read a bunch of Seth Godin’s books and blog. He doesn’t even take advertising! It’s the passion and authenticity that people respond to and will pay for, not ads for dianetics.
I hope your journey is truly full of passion.
Peace.
Congratulations on evolving to listen to your authentic self. One of my goals is to run a marathon. I have a friend in the UK who used to run triathalons. That definitely requires dedication. Another friend of mine in Melbourne does triathalons as a way to bond with his young son. Both compete in different age groups but train together and grow together.
hmm, try doing stuff step by step…
Tina, that’s very exciting. Good luck and have a terrific time.
A small tip. For what it’s worth, I really enjoyed my yoga classes in Seattle with an instructor named Ricardo Das Neves. I think he still teaches in a couple of different places (Ballard and downtown?).
I’ve been reading Csikszentmihaly’s book Flow. It makes me think of you.
Thank you!
Dear Tina,
As always you hit the nail on the head with this article. I plan to connect to it on the “How to Grow a Million Dollar Business Summit” as our guests should read every word. Many of them already have businesses, some are just starting out and this will be a perfect affirmation of their decisions to Go it alone and do what they love.
Thank you so much for all your words of wisdom ~ for someone so young, you are wise beyond your years.
Warmest regards,
Heidi Richards Mooney, Founder
Where Women Prosper ~ http://www.wherewomenprosper.com
Tina, Congratulations. Your courage is inspiring.
Thanks for sharing!
Holy crap! That is so AWESOME!!! Congratulations, you are now my role model. Kick much ass, and enjoy it.
Dear Tina. The power in you….!! Keep on going!! You’re a great source of inspiration in how you live your life. I admire your openness and willingness to be vulnerable, and sharing the wins and the loses (a.k.a. opportunities) and mistakes and keep right on going, being source. The tips and experiences you’ve shared have really helped me to put areas in my life or ignored pieces of the bigger picture of my life, in perspective again. The biggest example is simply getting our there and sharing my gifts and passions with others, being in service, and share oneself genuinely, with heart. Thank you also for the great advice on writing down one’s plans deliberately.
I feel that living our passions will never tire and wither as long as it evolves out to help create passion in the world. And right now this world really needs all of us to live our passions and to break out of old comforts that restrict our growth.
About motivational speaking and coaching, I know that people will love to see Think Simple Now to continue to evolve, and if you may even begin to take it out into the world, into the communities of the world, being there in the same place, sharing an empowering experience in which your service to others includes people beyond the scope of the internet. I’ll also keep an eye out for this, as well as Simply Tina. I once heard someone say, ‘live your life as if it’s the first day.’
Hi Tina,
I wanted to say “thank you” for the work you do. The articles you write have a profound effect on the people who read them. I’ve passed your blog on to others with the typical “rolling of the eyes” and “blow off” reception. (Many people are a little strange when you talk about inspirational articles or books with them.) However, each time this has occurred, I get a response from people thanking me for introducing them to such an amazing place for simple (yet profound) insight into their thoughts. I can only imagine how good the comments make you feel because those responses from others I’ve shared with have the same impact on me.
Congratulations on your self employment! I have been self employed for about 6 years now but not in the same way you are going about it. I have an office to manage and others to take care of on a daily basis. There are many times when I wish I could just be independent and self sustaining without all the additional stress. I am working on that and your post helps to highlight areas in which to focus.
Keep up the great work! There is no doubt success will come to you!
Markus
I think a more personal blog is a fabulous idea. I know I’d be interested in reading a live-from-the-scene type of account of self-employment and self-discovery. Cheers to you for reaching your goal.
Yeah as soon as I can save up 24 months of living expenses I will pursue my dream too.. LOL
you know what else having a job making a ton of money can do?
allow you to pursue your dreams…
keep in mind, your inspiration becomes pompous to the working class.
Hi Tina,
I read your post and I have one suggestion. While I have not been to Paris myself (well, except the airport), I have been on vacation to Lyon, France. If there was anywhere I’d want to live and be location independent, it’s Lyon. I think compared to Paris, from what I’ve heard of Paris, it’s slower paced, relaxed and very pleasant. If you have your heart set on Paris, then by all means, take what I say with a grain of salt, but Lyon would suit your style from what I know of you through this blog. The people of Lyon are friendly, helpful and always a joy to speak to- even with my limited movie-learned French phrases!
Take care and best of luck with your dreams!
Char
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Thank you Char for the suggestion. I will look into Lyon. I’m not set on Paris, France more like it. :)
Tina
I’m on my way.. I’ll see you there.